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[Solved] Lonely as a divorced dad

 
Rondesneller
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Hi All, as you might have read, I am not from the UK although I think many of you might have same problem.
Because of my divorce and the reasons behind it, life and work environment changed, my friends turned out to be no friends and I had to start my life all over.
I thought it would be easy to gain new contacts and friends but as it seems....I am not 20 Anymore and the world has changed.
Mostly from offline to online meeting people.
And that’s hard if you are a people person like me.
Datingsites are not much for me. And was wondering if any other dads here meet dads drom here and if any chat contact follows drom these forums.
Well just a thought on this hot morning.
Drop me a msg or contact me by Skype, love to chat.
Ron

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Topic starter Posted : 19/08/2020 12:19 pm
Bill337
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hi ron. i sent you a private message.

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Posted : 19/08/2020 3:13 pm
Rondesneller
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Thnx man love to meet you

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Topic starter Posted : 19/08/2020 3:29 pm
actd
 actd
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Because of my divorce and the reasons behind it, life and work environment changed, my friends turned out to be no friends and I had to start my life all over.
I thought it would be easy to gain new contacts and friends but as it seems....I am not 20 Anymore and the world has changed.

I joined a singles group on facebook when my last relationship ended as I didn't have any friends outside that or work. It's not a dating site, and it's local to where I live, and my social life took off once I'd joined.
I would certainly recommend you search on facebook for singles groups in your area - just be careful which you go for, there are some which are fairly dubious, but hopefully you'll find one that is properly run and you can meet lots of people just to chat.
You could also try www.meetup.com, or if there's a hobby you've ever wanted to try, now's the time and you may meet people that way.

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Posted : 19/08/2020 10:05 pm
Rondesneller
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Hej thnx, good idea I will try.

Also I got some good contacts with other people from here as well

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Topic starter Posted : 20/08/2020 2:51 am
Rondesneller
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I tried to apply but it seems people with a history like me aren’t much welcome.
I do not want to force myself into a group so Inkeep on looking but it is not easy.

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Topic starter Posted : 30/08/2020 12:08 pm
Rondesneller
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Hi, it has been several weeks now since I posted here.
I have chatted with someone from here, tried to get into groups in my community but without much succes.
Do you guys also feel that as a divorced dad yu are less welcome, friends turn their back to you?

I only found one couple that are friendly but surely, there must be more to life? more people to meet? more people who are like me?

Well...sorry about this depressed post...hope next time I post I can be more cheerfull.

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Topic starter Posted : 03/09/2020 9:24 pm
actd
 actd
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when I divorced from my children's mother, I had separate friends who stuck with me. Any joint friends were more hers, so stuck with her, though one of her cousins knew what she was really like so we've stayed in touch for the last 20 years.

Takes time to build up a social circle again, and it is quite hard work.

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Posted : 03/09/2020 10:52 pm
Rondesneller
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I am too impatient, I never had many friends.
Need t work on my social skills as well I guess

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Topic starter Posted : 03/09/2020 11:25 pm
actd
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Hobbies are a good way to start, chances are you have more time on your hands, so if there's anything you've always wanted to do, now's the time.

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Posted : 03/09/2020 11:45 pm
Headspace
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Hi.
I joined this site 4 years ago after my separation and subsequent divorce as I had no friends outside of work whom I don’t meet.
After a while when my emotions and pain had settled down, i realised that the first friend I really needed, is with myself. So I discovered mindfulness and self-compassion and now 4 years on, I am single and loving it and I only occasionally text a work colleague or two for a brief’ chat’. Otherwise, it’s just me and my interests. I agree getting a hobby to distract yourself from unwanted thoughts and attachment is a good idea, but the relationship with yourself is the most important. Don’t get me wrong, my divorce is still affecting me note and I get my low days, but I can function and still love my independent life.

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Posted : 10/09/2020 12:53 pm
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Rondesneller
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Thnx!
The trutsh is that I dont really like myself much.
I still need to accept myself as I am.
In mean time, my mind craves of interactions with other people.
Well if any of you like to chat with me, let me know ok?

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Topic starter Posted : 13/09/2020 4:53 pm
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