[Solved] a year since iv been here

hi i have posed on here at least a yr ago when all my troubles started well i though i would update, but first ill let you know what happened.

with out getting to the long 11 yrs of marriage ill just say that we split i lived at home for 3 months so i could be there for my daughter at first it was ok not easy but ok but then it all started to get difficult after confessing that she was seeing some on with a month of the breack up to which it shattered me emotionally which made things worse in the house, we had always agreed and shared custodary for our daughter on a week ration to which i agreed as it was best all round.

In the end of the 3rd month i moved out to my mothers cause the emotional strain was beging to take it toll on me and the truth of affares and lying where coming out so i moved and we still carried on going to meditation on one such meeting my ex wife picked me up and we talked all the way there about certain things to do with my daughter and covered a lot of things in the car trip it was pleasent and i though we had covered all of the things needed no sooner had the meeting started than she dropped a bomdshell question about moving away and how would i stand about it, it wasnt the fact that she might want to move away that got me its was the fact that she though the my daughter would go with her, away i sort red and aruged this point longer story sort here this lead to a massive fight that whent on for a while.

after i got a letter from her laywer saying that i wasnt allowed in the house or near her and my daughter would be dropped off at a family members house( let me add that no voilance happened in the argument at all) this went on for a month untill around the 11th dec 2011 i had my daughter for the weekend she was picked up by her mum from my mothers a joke or 2 was made to lighten the mood kissed her goodbye (my daughter not the ex ) and all was good.

the following tuesday i recived a letter in the post which i recognised her hand writing basiclly she had given me the house but taken my daughter and left and would let me know where shes was in good time needless to say that i was deverstated by this news and was staright on to my lawyer and the police, i had a great laywer who had paper work and court date all set and ready to go, the police wouldnt give over the address to either me or my laywer with out talkng to the judge first but as the court was closing for xmas i was screwed and spent the next 3 weeks trying to talk to my daughter and also spendoing the long days with knowing where she was,well finally the courts opened and the judge got the address and issued the court orders making my ex bring my daughter back to england as she was living in scotland and crossed the legal boarder 1st court date (with out going in to all that happened ) saw that my daughter was returned to me that day to saw i was shocked happy scared and everything else was an understament.

Got her home and straight away wanted to get her back in to a normal life so back to school ( i know curle dad) this was how it was for a couple of months with visits from caffcass. Now this is the part i wanted to kinda point out at no point did i or have i ever bad mouthed my Ex to my daughter i had to push all those thoughs and feelings aside and make as much contact as i could for her and when the final court date came and we sat in forint of the judge for the final verdict i had been praised on the fact that i never said a bad word against her and even praised her as a good parent.

i am happy to say that at this moment my daughter and my self are closer than ever and i enjoy being a dad more than life it self there are problems but i know theres had and support out there.

i think what i wanted to say or point out is that if you are having problems and evrything that remeber that your son/daughter's are not there as a weapon or to be digged at and try to push those feelings aside not only is better for them but you will feel btter for it as well.

sorry for for sounding prechy, as for me a new year has started and who knows what it may bring :p