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Hi all.I don't think this is a rare occurrence indeed i've already been in this situation more than once over the years.
I'm due to have my children with me this weekend.Everything was pre-arranged between both parties.Via verbal communication and emails.
Now i'm being told i cannot see them or have them till she gets her solicitors to write me.
I've missed out a great deal but , i'd rather just get some opinions and the like from you all.
I've been in touch with CAB.They've told me because it's planned and confirmed then she cannot stop my access this weekend.
Ok , so do i tell their mom i am coming to get them and will return my children as planned?
(i've already had problems with her current boyfriend , this could very well escalate and very quickly, Obviously i don't want this as i'm only there for 2 reasons not fighting and arguing especially in front of my kids.
Or do i sit back and let her dig a hole , so to speak?
Thanks
O.D
Hi
As I understand it from your previous post, you have been through mediation, but it sounds like an an agreement was reached but there is no contact order in place (would have had to have been done by a court)?
I'll ask the CCLC to pop by and give an opinion on the legal situation, but from what you have said, I would try to persuade her to let you have your children as planned, but if she refuses, don't go to pick them up - if it escalates then the police could well be called and whatever the circumstances, you are going to be the one who went to her property, in a worst case, you could find yourself being arrested for breach of the peace, and aside from the fact that this won't help you at all in court, it's definitely something you don't want your children to witness.
in ith regartds to your being told you cannot have your children when the plans have already been laid down please inform her in writing (keeping a copy on file for future referance ) that you will be picking child (children) up as arranged but also be prepared to ask for a police liaison officer to accompany you, if a judge has decreed that you can have them then she is in contempt of court. My own youngest son was told by a judge he could have his children on a saturday and his ex got her solicitor to write and tell him he could not have them as he was mentally unstable (he had suffered a breakdown after being told constantly for years he was no good, lazy (he works up to 80 hours a week and has done all his workinglife) did all the diy jobs and often had to clean the house up) both his ex and her solicitor are in serious trouble in contempt of court, I have had to fight for my right as their nana to see them which I did for the first time on the 21st of May and it was beautiful to see my grandson come racing to me with his arms outstretched and a grin on his face from ear to ear and calling out nana nana. As a mother and a gran i say to all those dads out there you have to fight to get your rights we women as a species can be very vindictive and unfortunately the courts of this country always seem to decide in favour of the mothers. I know of so many children who have grown up whose lives have been completely ruined because a judge has made the wrong decision good luck to you all.
Although Madgran's support is great and gives a prospective from a female point of view which is great, I would strongly suggest that you don't try to enforce the children go with you unless thier mother is willing to allow this to happen freely.
As actd says this won't help you in any way and you could go against you, But more importantly the effect it would have on your children would make it worse, they are the important ones in all of this after all.
Wait for a responce from the cclc to see what they suggest.
Darren
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