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Hi, new here
i have been having issues within my marriage for a number of years and it’s getting way to much however, I pay all the bills including the mortgage but feel I need to get out because the constant arguing is affecting me.
what help is out there even temporary accommodation before finally going through with divorce, as can’t afford 2 sets of bils
I'm sorry to hear your marriage isn't working. Have you thought of marriage counselling? If the marriage is definitely over, then you may find mediation would be a way to sort out the finances. You can find a local mediator on the Family Mediation Service website. It will be cheaper and quicker than using solicitors. You could live in the same property while this is being sorted. Are there children as this will affect how you deal with everything? Is domestic abuse involved? There are refuges for women fleeing domestic abuse but limited for men. You can contact the Men's Advice Line on 0808 801 0327. First step though will be to let your partner know what you are thinking.
@dadmod3
Did try the counselling but didn’t get off the ground due to lack of engagement, All children over 16, living in the same property with all the constant arguing between us is just so draining plus I’ve been relegated to the sofa for a number of weeks now
She has muted about divorce a number of times but I’ve got to the point of why do I keep trying
@sallysal69 is she open to negotiations? can be informal, deciding on matters about assets/properties. if you can come to agreement, can make it legally binding by asking the court to make it a consent order. if its hostile, high conflict then you may need help from courts to sort it out. if possible you can try stay in property while it's sorted. if unbearable, you can search a site like rightmove for temporary place to stay.
You can find the process for a divorce on the advicenow.org.uk website. Its going to be tricky even though the children are over 16 as they will need somewhere to live.
Hi there, this sounds like such a difficult situation for you all to be in. I'm a Parent Support Worker with Spurgeons and family breakdown is so stressful for all concerned.
As your children are older, would they be open to having a family meeting to discuss/explore a way forward for you all? If you are clear that the meeting is not an opportunity to argue but to have clear and open discussion about you all as a family and a time for each one of you to speak and have your feelings/views heard without fear of blame, judgement and criticism. It's okay to agree to disagree and for everyone to have different opinions.
It can be quite daunting trying this for the first time as people can feel awkward or uncomfortable but the hope is that it becomes an opportunity for honest and transparent conversations.......sometimes uncomfortable conversations but needed to address areas of difficulty. It also provides an opportunity for you and your wife to be positive role models to your children in how relationships are managed, even when they are difficult.
I do hope that your wife will be open to exploring this and that you can all move forward as a family.
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