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Hi Chaps,
Just a quick question, my ex rides rough shod over any agreement that we have agreed and from agreeing to me seeing my children 6 out of 14 nights has now decided that I can only see them 2 out of 14 nights, I have spoken to my solicitor about this and they suggest that even if we get a court order etc. she will still come up with excuses (if only she would move on, we got divorced years ago!)
Anyway, I think I heard/ read somewhere that when children reach the age of 11 they can elect (within reason where to sleep). My children are 7 and 11.
Many thanks in advance for any advice.
Keep the website going, you are doing a great job and I really appreciate it.
Many thanks,
Hi
A residence or contact order runs until the children are 16 generally, so to the best of my knowledge, your children would have no say in the matter. If there is no residence order, and it's just an agreement between you and your ex, then as she is presumably the parent with care, as far as I know, she has control over where they sleep. If your ex is disregarding any agreement, then you be best suggesting mediation and getting the agreement written into a contact order.
You could give the CCLC a call (link is at the lower right hand corner of the website) for a word with them just to check if what I have said is correct.
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