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Hi All.
Im new to all this and my story is from what I've already read on dadtalk common place.
My son was born three years ago I like all of you on here was so proud sadly though that wouldn't last as just two months later my ex and I split up not of my doing as another person was already in the picture.
This I didn't know untill some months later, so I got to see my baby boy every other sunday her terms not mine Id like to point out.
This carried onfor nine months then when I met my new partner she had what Id say was a right wobbler she got the csa involved and was demanding where I lived which by this time Id already got a solicitor involved and three times she was offered mediation which she didn't take up the offer of going to.
By this time id not seen my son for four months the stress on all this on me and my family was huge and by the time we did get it into court it was six months since I'd seen my son.
We went to mediation via the courts which lasted all of one session as she was not liking what she was being told and when in court didn't like what she was being told there either but it seems the farthers have little say in court as the mother has all the if not most of the say in there.
I went back and forth to court nine times all at my cost as I had to take her to court she lied and nothing was said she failed to attend one of the hearings because she went on holiday nothing was said I could go on and Id be here all week.
In the end I got a contact order from court I now see my son every sunday but his mum is still trying to control the situation. The things is this If a court order says my son is to be made available every sunday and his mum takes him away she tells me that time doesn't need to be made up im sure it does as shes taking him away in my time? The other point is she said she had concerns about my son and what he was saying or doing and told me she had contacted social services which was a lie as Id been in touch with them to find out what was going on and told me she hadn't contacted them i explained what was going on and they couldn't beleave it even to the point of my ex wanting my permission to have my name removed from my sons birth certificate and letting my son call her partner dad and just refering to me by my name when I pick him up or drop him off which will mess his head up all this is about control.
The fact that my ex doesn't like being told by solicitors judges the lengths she would go to the lies told in court which thankfully the judge who I think saw through it made the contact order what itis but she still plays up.
I know I'll be going back to court at some point as six hours every sunday isnt much time its a start but I still have a long way to go for it to be fair for my son to have quality time with his dad and dads family.
So I'd like to know can my ex just take my son away without making the time up and can I go to his GP's and ask to see his doctor and see how my sons health is?
Thanks for reading
A stressed dad :unsure:
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