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Hello all, My 1st post but hopefully not my last. I lost contact with my then 5 year old 18 years ago. The reasons were very complicted but basically after 2 years of going to court getting access and then having it thrown back at me at least 5 seperate times my health and wealth suffered. The final straw came when I made a go for full custody which then had me arrested and questioned for sexual assault, all unfounded. I had no choice but to give up. I was in another relationship and had to make a tough decision. While making the access attempts I never got contact or very rarely. I honored my CSA payments etc.
My intention was that when he was 21 I would try again, (i know my ex wife kept minimal contact meantime with my family). All this is basic info which could go on for pages! Believe me I didn't go all these years just forgetting him or doing absolutley nothing but many many things were happenning between me and the ex which took years to settle. Anyway I tried via facebook having found his account. I tried on 3 occassions to get him to speak to me. All without success. I left him a phone number and my email address. Anyway he's now 23 and still nothing. His mind has been poisoned against me.
I am getting to feel that I will never see him at all again and am at my wits end about what do do. Does anyone have any suggestions as how / what I can now do to try to get him to speak to me. Or who to contact for help.
All the best chaps and chin up.
Do you have evidence of your fighting for access and custody.
We are often reccomended to keep such things, so you can prove later on you fought for them. Showing that you fought to be part of his life, and why it could not go on may hopefully help.
Do you have an address for him? Sometimes writing to someone has more impact than electronic means. Or make a video of yourself for him to watch, it may seem mope personal. If you dont have his address you could do that electronically.
It may not help, but its small things that may be worth a try. I know it has helped others
Yes I have kept all the old court papers. I like the video idea and will bear it in mind. I have an idea where he is but it is with his mum. To be honest I don't want any contact with her at all it was so bad!
Thanks.
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