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Hello there im 19 and about to become a dad for the first time, is there any other young dads around? I dont know anyone and would like to talk to people 🙂
Hope to hear from people soon 🙂
Jordan
Hi Jordan,
Congratulations! That's great news. There are lots of Dads who come on this site. Have you had a look through the Forum yet at other posts? Feel free to ask any questions you might have. I know when I was about to become a Dad for the first time I had loads. When are you & your partner/wife due?
Great to have you on here!
Thankyou, I haven't looked yet but will do 🙂
Its exciting knowing that soon ill be a dad, were due on 19th July, got the 25 week midwife appointment soon so looking forward to that 🙂
Hi there
Welcome to Dadtalk - I am sure there are lots of young dads on here but feel free to ask us "olduns" anything as we may be able to help
How do you feel?
It must be pretty scary and exciting!!
One thing is for certain your life is about to change and you will look at everything in a completely different way
Good Luck
Thanks 🙂
I feel excited, I cant wait, me and my partner are still together which is good. Just got ourselves a student house to rent so were excited about having our own place.
Were 23weeks now and just want it to go quick so the little one can be here lol.
How many children have you got?
Congrats man! Most 19 year olds would run for the hills, kudos for rocking the pregnancy like a real man! 😉
Thanks mate
How can anyone run? Im proud im going to be a dad and i dont see why anyone shouldnt just because of your age.
How many kids have you got? What age are they?
Lol I know if I was 19 (I'm 30 now) I would have freaked out! lol Times change I suppose.
I have one wee boy, he is 8 weeks old, I'm still very new to this so learning as I go really!
Aww congrats
Were 23 weeks now, i cant believe how quick it has gone since we found out in November, but now we just want july to come lol did you get a similar feeling?
I was excited, but it never ever felt real. Time flew by, and before I knew it we were at the hospital. The wife went c-section because the wee man was lying breach, c-section was weird but the result is still the same.
In some respects it's still not real, we're only just starting to get int oa routine just now, it'll turn you're world upside down fella! 🙂
haha yeah it has felt slightly unreal especially untill the first scan, then it was just a wait to the second scan and now were waiting for the little one to start kicking properly, its not fair my OH has felt the LO for ages now and I feel a bit useless like im nothing to do with it even though I know I am lol.
Its a strange feeling and now I feel like I am more mature when see things happening and how people act around town and stuff its really strange lol
You may feel useless now, but the second it's born you kick into man mode in a big way. My advice, limited as it is; is to establish a routine ASAP.
I don't mean a routine for the little one, I mean a routine for you and the missus. We assumed that when the wee man got home we would carry on our daily tasks with him becoming part of them; utterly wrong. All the focus goes towards him and if we're lucky we might get some of our daily stuff done! If you try and wing it, you'll fail. It's taken us 2 months to establish how we work the evenings and through the nights for feeds; just find somehting that works for you.
The experience is akin to nothing else I have ever witnessed, and I've done some crazy [censored] - 165mph in cars, done enough quite frankly dangerous and stupid things that not even a cat with 9 lives would survive, been on holidays to places most people can't afford to go. Nothing comes close to the feeling you get when you hold your new baby, created by you, made of your stuff, your blood.
I write this as I know what my life was like before the event, and how it is after it, like I say - Perspectives realigned. I used to live my live with no regard for my own well being, taking everything too far, putting more effort into my business than my family & generally not giving a [censored]. Now? I guess I like to think I'm that person, but I'm not. I'm a more grown up, reserved, careful, over protective version of my pre-2012 self.
It's a change for the better, but it's hard work. 🙂
yeah well its good beacuse she will be on maternity leave and I will be off uni which was timed great cos i get quality time with them when im not working which is only part time 🙂
It sounds exciting 🙂 i cant wait haha 🙂
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