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Hi, new to the site and new to being a father. My wife and I have just had a baby girl 6 weeks old. We have been married for 9 years and have a great relationship. My wife is doing great as a new mum, but I feel very down and am finding it hard to enjoy the time we get together as a family. Don't want to feel like this as don't want to miss any of her time growing up. Feel very trapped and quite resentful towards the whole situation. Not to mention the baby crying which drives me mad. I'm normally a happy easy going person but over the last two weeks have become a different person. Any help or advice would be great ( please tell me this a in some way normal as I feel like the worst father in the world at the moment )
Cheers
Hi Chris
Welcome to Dadtalk and thanks for being so honest. You are ot alone in this and many new dads feel like you do. I was (and still am to a degree) of the attention my wife would give the kids over me. I love them to bits but I found it quite difficult to come to terms with.
I suppose you need to deal with it in your own way, join in with baby activities at home but also try to do something as an escape from family life - play golf or something. Also try to once a month go out as a couple and have adult conversation.
The baby crying is probably just you tired - that definitely gets easier...the first time they go through the night is the best feeeling ever!!!
Good luck with it and keep us posted
SM
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