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Hi I’ve been in my little ones life since the day she was born even tho my ex and myself were not together when the baby was born. I have paid maintenance every month for the last 8 years but she never put my name on the birth certificate. I originally was as having her for 2nights 3 days every other week but that has now changed to just 1 day. My ex married 3yrs ago and I have recently been made aware that her partner may have adopted my child. Is there anyway of finding out as every time I ask the ignore the question.
Thanks for the help in advance.
I'm not sure how you find out about this - it might be worth asking the registrar of births and deaths, they may know where to start to find out about this.
Without parental responsibility (being named on the birth certificate, or obtaining a court order for PR) they wouldn't need your permission to apply for adoption.
If he has legally adopted her, you wouldn't be liable to pay child maintenance. I'm not sure how you could find out, but I think one way would be to apply for a Parental Responsibility Order through he court, she would then have to declare whether your child has been adopted.
Do you pay maintenance through the CSA/CMS service? If you do you could approach them about this.
If your maintenance is arranged and paid between yourselves,you could try stopping payment (but putting the money to one side) , if there's no adoption, she would pursue reinstatement of payment through official channels, if the child has been adopted, she probably wouldn't as she is not entitled to maintenance from you.
Best of luck
Thank you for the reply
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