[Solved] Cant belive I'm going to write this.......

Cant belive I'm going to write this.......

My wife & I have been together 5 years. We have been married coming up 3 years and had a (beautiful) honeymoon baby girl!

We've got everything we could wish for: our little 2 yr old, comfortable living (not rich but never mind) & my wife's a stay-at-home mum.

But it's been 3 or more years since we went a week without a blazing row. She makes all sorts of allegations up about me & 6 weeks ago called the police & told them I'd hit her (I hadn't!!).

In fact she'd hit me (not the first time) & I had to go and get changed to cover up my injuries from the police. I know you may wonder why I did it, but I just did it becasue I wanted those policemen out of our home and away from my daughter as quickly as possible.

As you can imagine, Xmas was fairly strained. 48 hours after the police had come she admitted that I hadn't hit her, but then launched into more verbal attacks.

She doesn't & hasn't asked me my opinion about anything that matters since before we were married.

And the only power that she has over me is access to my daughter. Sounds weird saying "access" on the basis that we're still living together. But any time I spend with her on my own is strictly monitored. If I even go for a walk and am 5 mins late coming back, I've found her in tears on my return before (obsessing that something tarrible has happened). And as for organising anything with my side of the family, it can't be done without all [censored] breaking loose.

And to be honest, I can't express an opinion about a single thing without all [censored] breaking loose..

She has a similarly volatile relationship with the mother, but with her mother it's all over and done in a flash and all's forgiven & forgotten.
Ditto with her sister. Can't really comment about her dad as I've never heard him say more than one word out of place.

I've been accused of countlesss affairs (all untrue). And if we ever happen to cross paths with an old flame of mine, there will be a week-long sulk.

The only reason I've stayed on the past year is for my daughter. and the hope that my wife would turn the corner with her jealousies and rages.

My daughter is coming up for 2 now & things are getting no better at all with my wife.

In fact, they're getting a helluva lot worse & my huge worry is how this is going to be affecting her now and in the longer run.

I just can't see how it can't be affecting her.......
I've been slapped and spat at by her mum directly in front of her. Her temper is vile.

I work my backside off to make sure that we have enough so that my wife doesn't have to work.

The plan was that she would go back part-time after our daughter was born.

The company she was working for said that it was full-time or nothing so she made the decision (and I suppported her in that, not that I was vaguely consulted) to not go back at all. And I don't begrudge her that.

But they *had* hinted that she could go back 2 days a week & my wife told me in no uncertain terms that our daughter would be going to her mother's (an hour away) for those 2 days whilst she worked on the road (her sales patch was a further 2-3 hours away).

To sum her up, her mother proudly tells anybody who'll listen that she sellotaped a dummy to her elder daughter's mouth. And also takes the mickey out of my wife's stutter. So I had my reservations about this to say the least.

I am a pretty hands-on dad, and my parents live 5 mins away from my work. so I insisted that one of those days should be at my parents .... They're great with their other grandchildren & would have been more than capable of looking after my daughter.
My wife said they had "had their time with grandchildren" and that it was her mother's turn now.

I insisted (honestly not thinking her capable of it) and my wife threatened me with walking out.

That was the first she'd threatened that (after the baby) and I was devastated but didn't back down (again, worried about my daughter).

Things happen for a reason, and her work said it was 5 days a week or nothing, so the situation all came to nothing.

My wife won't let me over the doorstep without a HUGE row or sulk. Catching up with old friends (I'm sleazing around wine bars), seeing my niece and nephew (they're little sh!ts)... Even going to work (what a poxy place!).
This poxy place pays our mortgage. Oh and she informed me that she wants half of it in our divorce settlement.

I'm no angel, and yup I shout and holler, but that's about it.

I haven't had affairs, don't gamble, drink to excess or anything like that.

Yet my wife is going garrety every single time I put a foot out of place or open my mouth. I've been threatened with divorce at least once a week for the last 2 years. and with her walking out every single day for the past month.

I can't let my daughter see this happen to her daddy and see this as "normal" or acceptable behaviour.

Last night another HUGE row erupted after I gave my opinion about my daughter attending pre-school (my wife wants to put it off as long as possible because - she doesn't want anybody else changing her nappy. honestly).

My wife said she'd divorce me once my parents were "dead".

Luckily isabelle was a ) in bed) and b) isn't yet old enough to understand that sort of thing.

I can't do it any more. I can't be treatred like this around my daughter.

So why am i feeling so guilty about picking up the phone to a solicitor? (My wife's already been to one and has got advice about what to do).

If this isn't the sort of question I should be sking here, I apologise.

But if it is, what have other people done in this sort of situation?? (As much as I think I'm the only one with a wife frm [censored], I know I'm not!) ;;)

Anyway, thanks for reading this & best of luck to you! Sounds like we need it :}