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hi guys,
I have been seperated from my ex partner since my daughter was 6 months old she is now 6 years old. I have always seen my daughter on a regular weekend basis but now my ex partner has stopped this altogether and will not let me see her at all. I am currently seeking a contact order but she lives 50 miles away from me and is using this as one of the reasons i can no longer have my daughter at weekends, she has also made a number of other accusations about me to the court from domestic violence to drug abuse to emotional and physical abuse. she also says that i have been nasty to her other three children to whom she had with another man. The police have been involved in the past and I am now too scared to attend my partners house or text or ring her incase she gets me done for harrassment instead. She has also made accusations against my parents whom i live with so i can not even ask them to go. There is not a go between if u like between us and so i am unsure how i can get access to my daughter other than contact at a contact centre. could anyone tell me how often i am likely to get to see my daughter at a contact centre bearing in mind she would have to bring her three other children via public transport as she does not drive or have a car???
This whole scenario is a complete nightmare due to the fact that i am currently shelling out a fortune on solicitor fees i have not been able to pay any maintance towards my daughter is this something that the court are likely to take into consideration when making an order???
I am very confused. if the court make an order for me to attend a contact centre is this likely to be forever??? I have not seen my daughter for 8 months now so any contact is better than none at the moment but what is likely to happen in the medium to long term???
Thanks for your help guys
Steve
Hi Steve,
Apologies, but I deleted this topic accidentally over the weekend, your post has been restored, but I think you may have posted again. If so, can you re-post abs I'll try not to delete it again.
Hi yes I did repost was just a bit of an update on my situation further to the replies on here which was in response to the replies that were on my post which have since gone too now.
Basically I have recieved my ex's later statement which is again nothing less than a pack of lies making various accusations against me and attempting to put more distance between me and my daughter. I have managed to start paying CSA though and began to pay off some of the arrears even though this wilkl leave me extremely short fro christmas.
Also in her statement she has now declared that she is now pregnant with her 5th child to a third man is this woman mad???? She has reported that this again will make it difficult for her to attend the contact centre particuarly using opublic transport in the winter months and also reporting that she doesn't need any stress while she is pregnant etc.
I am not totally sure what I cans say or doa bout this and will have to speak to my solicitor etc I guess.
She also cancelled her initial pre-visit to the contact centre on saturday due to the fact she had a long term engagement planned evemn though she had known about this appointment since the start of October. She is taking the mick. This has again delayed when I will egt to see my daughter as she will now have to arraneg another pre-visit etc.
I am due to attend a finding of fact hearing on 21 december does anyone know if this is when the final contact arrangements are usually finalised etc or is there another hearing afte this? the whole situation is sheer madness.
Thanks for you help.
Steve
Jeez what a nightmare! I sincerely feel for you there friend. I went through the solicitor nightmare after my divorce but in my case I was fighting my ex to make her have something to do with her children! The only advice I can offer you is for you to keep fighting for what you believe in and eventualy you will see results. Right always wins over in the end. Unfortunately each passing day is another lost with your child. It's just not fair. The whole system needs overhauling and dads need far more recognition and rights. Good luck my friend, I have my fingers crossed for you.
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