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My ex has requested to change our daughters surname to that of her own (we were never married but our 2 year old daughter has my name on the birth certificate).
I am little disappointed to be asked however I do understand so its not a huge issue to me. My question is this: Will I lose any rights by agreeing to change her name by deed poll? and am I doing the right thing?
Another issue I have is that my ex limits my access to Saturday mornings for a couple of hours and will not let me take her away from her house even to the park (for no justifiable reason). Am I having the wool pulled over my eyes here? Am I entitled to more?
Thanks
Hi
You cannot lose parental rights unless a court removes them which is not going to happen here, so giving permission is not going to be an issue in this respect.
As for contact, there is no entitlement as such to any fixed amount of time, but I would say that your ex is being unreasonable in this. Perhaps mediation is best at this stage, especially since she wants something from you, she might be more amenable to coming to an agreement.
Many thanks for your advice.
I did worry that I would be siging over some rights that I was not aware of but it makes me feel easier knowing that I wont lose any by doing this.
Without really wanting to have to use the name changing as a form of leverage, I can’t really waste an opportunity like this to use this as a better deal for my daughter and I.
I’m pleased you think she is being unreasonable as I doubted myself at times.
Thanks again
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