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Thanks guys. Every time I keep asking for an email address to send copy to she keeps coming back with ‘we have the agreement, with you weekends with me in week’ ... told her I want something signing as it includes details for everything else such as holiday, money, new partners etc.
The one thing I know she won’t like and will not want in the agreement is what I’ve asked for me. I’ve asked for every 5 days I book off of work to have the kids let me have 1 weekend or even 1 day on a weekend for myself to just chill, do something for me or my partner. I work mom-fri and most days are 12 hour days, job requires it sometimes, and then have kids from Friday after school to 7pm on a Sunday... I don’t get any ‘relax time’ ... I know with kids you lose that anyway haha but if she can have relax time of a weekend (and in week as she doesn’t work anyway) why can’t I?
1 weekend / 1 day of a weekend for every 5 days I book off. I know this will be the issue.
Asked her 6 times today by text for an email address. No response. So I will take pictures of each page and send that over tomorrow. See what happens from there.
It’s important for all of us to have some relax time, you’re not being unreasonable, stick to your guns.
All the best
Unfortunately, it's all about control for your ex, not about the quality of time the kids have with their father, or about fostering a workable co-parenting relationship which would be in the best interests of the children involved, as well as the parents.
It's sounds like you've done all you can to discuss the matter directly, while she's gone out her way to restrict and frustrate communication. Parenting involves a lot of compromising, but it appears you're having to deal with 'her way or the highway'. It sounds like you're much better off proceeding with the mediation. If she doesn't show up, the mediator will sign off and you will able to make your application for Child Arrangements, which should give you both defined time with the children that she can't tinker around with without your consent.
I went through this whole process myself a few years ago. While the mother in my case retains her controlling attitude, she is technically operating within a cupboard space rather than the grand palace of rights and privileges she swanned in prior to the Child Arrangements Order.
Take heart and stay on course.
bobty, stop texting and emailing/calling your ex. she can easily report you for harrasment and get one of those silly non molestation orders on you, and make your life more difficult. best thing to do is go down legal route and let court, lawyers work for you.
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