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I have two children aged 11, 13. They live with their mother who was pregnant with the youngest when we split. She moved 200 miles from my area 3 years ago and the already acrimonious relationship with her has got worse. The latest turn of events has stunned me and I am not sure what to do.
I got a text message from her in June saying she had done a referral to social services about me and I was now not allowed to have the girls overnight. I have had no further information from her and my two girls have become increasingly distressed about not being allowed to stay in the holidays with me. Up til now they have spent most of the holidays with me due to my working from home.
My ex wont give me any more information, ive asked for the social workers name and number, and all she tells me is to ring the county council number and wont give me a name. My eldest daughter last week kicked off so her mother let her come to stay, but said she had to stay at my fathers. She has been staying with me and lying to her mother. I have told her not to lie, so last night she told her she was staying with me. I got a long appalling text message from her telling me she is now stopping all contact and social services are going to take legal action against me. I am horrified about this. How can social services do this without even contacting me? I have done everything for the kids and feel powerless to stop this. My kids are desperate to see me.
Hi there,
Before doing anything I think I'd want to find out 100% that social services are involved as it may be they aren't and your ex is playing games.
Once you know then you can act accordingly.
I'd do this first as the outcome will depend on how and what you do next.
Darren
I rang the number she gave me which was the contact centre. They put me through to a duty social worker who said they had nothing on the system for the eldest child, but couldnt didscuss the youngest child as I am not on her birth certificate. My ex refused to put her name on the certificate as we had split. My ex is saying the referral is in regard to the youngest.
I can't see that she had raised concern over just one of the children and I would have thought that if she had raised concerns they would have been in contact with you already,I may be wrong though.
I would try talking to them again saying that you need to sort contact and that you need to decide what action to take, I would also read the guide to going to court at the top of the legal section as it may be where you need to go to resolve this and get contact back
Darren
I agree with Darren, and in addition to getting a contact order if you go to court, you can also apply for a PR order.
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