[Solved] Contact with my Children

Hi Steve,

Welcome to the site,

What arrangemants have been put in place?

Is there a court order to state that you will see them on set days or has this been an informal arrangement between the 2 of you?

If this wasn't a court order and your ex won't back down or give any good reasons for the change I would see if she would be willing to attend mediation to try to resolve the issue, I'd try this before looking at going for a court order (if one isn't in place) as this will help if it gets to that stage.

If an order is in place then she would be in breach of that order and May need court intervention to inforce, Though that said I would still trty the medaition route first.

Darren

Hi Darren,

Thanks for your reply.

No this was a informal agreement between us, although she keeps moving the goal posts!!!

Of course I would like to avoid having to go to court, so I like the sound of mediation, who could I contact in relation to setting this up?

Steve

Hi Steve,

There are lots of legal service that can offer mediation, Do a surch on line and it should bring some up for your area, You will be looking at paying out anywhere between £60-£150 per hour but if you can avoid going through court it could save money in the long run and make life less stressfull too.

Keep us posted on your progress.

Darren

Thanks again Darren.

I will have a search & keep you updated.

Steve

Hi Darren,

I briefly spoke to a mediation company yesterday to get some prices. Then spoke to the ex about going, but she isn't prepared to attend. Do you think it is worth attending on my own?

I am really confused at to what I should be doing for the best?

Any more help or advise would be great.

Thanks

Stephen

Hi Steve,

Again it's not unusual for that to happen, Like I've said if you can get her to go it would help rather than court as the court do look to mediation as a course of action, so if you are able to cut out the court it will save a lot of time and stress.

I'm not sure what attending on your own would gain as you want to discuss things, but you need her to be there to do it, I guess the only thing would a mediator may be able to put some perspective into what your asking for and if that is reasonable, (from what you have said your not being un reasonable)

Can I ask how you positioned the mediation session to your ex?

Mediation is a way for both parties to air issues and concerns so it would give her an open forum to discuss how she feels about what's happening as well as you.

Darren,

I just said to her that I would like to see a mediator, so we could resolve the issues & get a signed contact agreement. Her response was basicly that there was no need to go to mediation & that as 'she is the main carer, that it is her descsion & that it is final'.

Hi,

Oh dear i've had the whole "i'm the main carer" stuff too.

Has she given any reason as to why she needs to change the contact that you have had?

I would continue to try and talk it through with her see if you can talk her into it. If not then it may need to be the court route, though I'd try and keep this as a last resort and not try using it as leveage to get her to agree to mediation as that may have an adverse reaction (I speak from experience)

It wouldn't hurt to look at Yoji's advice on court orders to familerise yourself with the proccess.

Hi Darren,

Just to keep you updated, I have booked an appointment with a mediator. Unfortunatley It will be on my own, as the ex is prepared to come.

The company said it would be worth me coming, as if it does end up going to court, the fact that I have tried with will go in my favour.

Thanks again for your help & advise.

Steve

Hi Steve,

It's horrible when it comes to all this stuff, keep your head up and if you need any advice just ask

Good luck

Hope it all goes well. Keep plodding along. It'll all make a difference!