[Solved] Custody Rights to fathers

Would you plan on stopping the evening work if you were successful in having the kids live with you? From the limited ammount I know about your siuation, I would think you'd have a strong arguement for applying for custody as long as you are not working evenings when they're in your care. Would you be hoping for sole or shared custody of the kids?

Hi and welcome

Is there any chance the relationship can be saved - would it be worth talking to Relate? If so, their link is at the bottom of the website. I'd certainly have a think about it.

Wow. its the worst feeling you will ever experience. sorry to be blunt. but as dads we have no rights. if your children were born after 2003 then you have at least some, but before that year and you/we have none! i got custody of my son but the next 5 years were soul destroying. we are great. but i was trying to get my girls asswell. even though the mother was eventualy put on a child protection order for neglect, i still had no rights. when i took them because it wasnt suitable the police would come and take them back! she knew how to play the system asswell and had social services eating out of her hand. despite ten police waarantsand an endless list of constant emotional abuse. i feel for you pal. how is it percieved that dads dont love and care for their children just as much as a mother?
wish you well. What i learned is that anything is possible. if you feel its right and true, then it is!

if it had to I would

I have been the main carer so i thought id stay that way but on a positive note we had a meeting last night and didnt argue so things are looking up thinking positive to project a positive image thanks for your messages

my idea is i keep the house and the kids she goes and rents a room and works to pay maintenance has the kids whenever she wants I wouldnt be an [censored] about it at all as long as we had the security of the house....

Typically she does what a typical man would do in this sutation !
hey women wants equal rights it has to be 50 / 50 not 45 / 55 am I right ?

leebatley Try and do what actd suggested and go to relate. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but as everybody told me when i first separated from my ex "it will get messy".I was in the same situation as you the main carer i worked took my son to school every morning picked him up did most of the domestic jobs round the house.It counts for nothing.A bit of advice i would give you is don't pack your bags and leave even if things get really difficult .You won't be getting back in your home. After all that i hope for you and your families sake you can sort this one out. Believe me losing your home,your wife and most of all your children is the biggest loss anyone could ever encounter.Good luck 🙂

Relate is always the best option - but if it doesnt work out then you need to try to work things out amicably

Best of luck

Hi,

I am just entering a similar situation. 2 children involved, I work days only, all be it long ones sometimes from home, so can work day, night or evening when available.

Wife (ex to be) had affair aand repeated it with same guy, been diagnosed with mental health problems, keeps saying is leaving, but never does.

I have been told by a friendly police officer that the main thing to do is to get residency, which would involve form c100 and enter details of why it should be you rather that ex. As with everything, it comes with a risk, but it works best if you can prove best scenario for the sake of the children rather than financial reasons (as much as this will be taken into account). This would include the daily routines for the children, etc.

Good luck,

Andy

Hi sleight

If you haven't already seen it, take a look at yoji's guides to representing yourself at the top of the legal section - those should give you a lot of help.

Many thanks,

I will have a look at that later

Andy