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Hi everyone Jayne here,
My husband has been dragged through the courts for the last 2 years trying to gain access to his daughter. His ex wife made up all sorts of rubbish about him in court to prevent this from happening. She told them he was violent towards her which is a pack of lies! The woman just cannot accept that my husband fell in love with and married me and she will do ANYTHING to throw mud at his name including using an innocent child as a weapon! Of course this legal system is designed to believe such nonsense and my hubby was subjected to supervised visits as though he is a criminal!
He has recently been given access outside of court and last month was our first weekend with his daughter casey without any contact centre. His ex did not turn up and we have heard nothing from her. Her mobile is disconnected and we have no idea where she or the child is. I heard on the grapevine that she has upped sticks and moved to another part of london AND she has changed her name! To make matters worse I have also heard that she has fraudulently changed casey's last name to her new fake name via deed pole and even managed to get a passport for her by faking my husbands consent!
We are at our wits end because if this is true (which I am sure it is as my source is very reliable) then what chance do we have? We plan to take this back to court but what good will that do if she has done a runner and has a new identity? How can they possibly find her?Has anybody got any advice on how to track her down? can the legal system help at all? My poor husband is distraught at losing his daughter after all this heartache.
Thanks in advance, Jayne
Hi Jayne and welcome
I'm going to ask the Children's Legal Centre (CCLC) to pop on here and see if they can help.
Is your grapevine able to give you addresses etc?
Hi
No I dont have any further information. All i know is that she has changed her and the childs name and is possibly living somewhere in south London but no definate trail.
Thanks really appreciate it. Really want to help my hubby he don't deserve this!
OK, keep checking back for the CCLC's advice.
Do you know if the mother is working or on benefits? It may be possible to trace by NI number. It may also be worth having a word with the passport office - if the passport has been obtained with false information, aside from the fact that it's a criminal offence, I would think that the passport would be cancelled.
The benefits office will have it, don't worry about trying to find it. As long as you report it to the correct authorities there isn't a great deal you can do I wouldhave thought.
She will get found, no doubt about that; the government are very good at tracking people down when they need to, especially if she has falsified a government document.
I own a recruitment company and get at least 2 visits from the Job Centre/Benefits Fraud investigators tracking down people, they are incredibly good and won't stop until they track the person down; it's quite scary actually!
Dear Jayne,
Your husband can apply to the court for a disclosure of whereabouts. He can make this application on form C4 which can be obtained from www.justice.gov.uk or your local county court. Once the form is filled in you need to file it at your local county court with the application fee.
You may wish to contact the passport office and/or the police regarding the passport being obtained fraudulently.
If the child’s name has been changed your husband can make an application for a specific issue order to ask the court to change her name back to what it was originally. You require a C100 form for this application.
If you have any further questions please contact us via our webchat facility. The link to our webchat is http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com/index.php?page=web_chat.
Yours sincerely,
Coram Children’s Legal Centre
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