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Hi everyone,
im Michael and am new to this site.
i have read a lot of the messages on here and although i am in a better situation then most, i wanted to get other Dad's opinions and some proper advice on my situation.
i have a son who is nearly 4 and his mother and I are divorced after she had an affair. we have a routine where i have him 6 nights out of 14 and have 50/50 care for him.
this has been the case for a number of years but he is starting school near me soon so we changed his routine to stay at my house every night so i get him to school on time as his mother cant drive and is a 45 minute journey away by busses and trains at best.
we signed a timetable that we drew up but has now changed her mind saying her live in boyfriend is going to take her to drop him every morning she has him early in the morning. other then her being on benefits and breaking the law with her partner living there, i am not too happy about the change so was seeking advice.
she asks my me to have my son at least 2/3 times a month on her nights or if i cant, she asks my mum to have him.
am i being unreasonable?
Hi there and welcome to Dad.info
I do have sympathy for you and I would be fed up too but I certainly wouldn't do too much to rock the boat as your ex may take it out on you by not allowing you access etc.
This doesn't mean you have to accept everything but I would pick your fights carefully - you sound like you have great access and you spend quality time with your son.
Hi There,
I would allow this to happen and play the long game on this, The live in boyfriend may be happy to do this at the moment but for how long?
When the mornings are freezing and wet, he may not want to be bothered and if you accept this with the back up of if anything changes let me know and we can revert back to the original plan it may well work in your favour.
Just a different view.
Darren
Sounds tough mate. Quick question, how is he breaking the law by being there?
...I should think his ex is probably on benefits and claiming as a single parent. Once a boyfriend/partner moves into the home it is classed as co-habiting and the amount of benefit paid would change. If the boyfriend/partner is working, then depending on the amount of wages going into the household, entitlements to benefit could stop altogether.
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