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Hi all - first-timer here so be gentle with me - I've not seen my daughter since an allmighty row on Fathers Day (irony).
She lives with her mother and after 4 years since the family break up; in the summer, she finally pinned the blame on me.
The good news is though that she has recently agreed that if I can find the appropriate counselling for her in the Ipswich area she's prepared to go and talk to someone and try and work her angst through - can anyone point me in the right direction please???
Thanks in advance
Alistair
Hi Alistair,
Welcome to DAD.
What kind of counselling are you looking for ? Is this mediation for the two of you or specific for your ex ?
Tell us some more about you and your daughter ? how old is she ? was it last fathers day when you saw her last ?
Gooner
Hi Gooner - thanks.
She's 13, and it was last fathers Day - so about 7 months.
It's someone for my daughter to talk to that I am looking for - I don't think she'd accept me being there at this stage. An independent person who can listen to both sides of the story (seperately) and hopefuly coax some sense back into My daughter?
Does this make sense?
A
Relate springs to mind as a possible counsellor - we can ask them to pop on here if you wish.
I'd also recommend relate for this.
It was actually my ex who got our kids some child counselling via relate during our v.acrimonious divorce.
It later turned out she did this to try and get a report against me by manipulating the children into making them believe the very worst about their dad in the hope they would say all this to the consellor.
Thankfully the guy in question, who I arranged to see as soon as I found out, was seriously spot on and knew what he was doing so he saw through all the BS.
Not sure if it would have helped my kids because when my ex realised her plan wasn't working she immediately stopped the kids from attending - so much for putting them first.
However; he came across so well that I would have no question even now of recommending him and I wish my kids could see him now to try and help them with all the passive aggresiveness they have to deal with from their mother.
I've since tried getting counselling through both their primary school, and the eldests secondary school. Both schools were next to useless. The primary school head actually lied outright to me and said they couldn't arrange any counselling (since found out this is completely untrue).
You're actually ahead of the game in that your daughter is agreeable to seeing a counsellor so I wish you the very best of luck.
Hi there
It seems like many parents of teenagers you are going through that whole hormone driven time. It is really difficult and probably harder for you as she doesn't live with you and is being encouraged by her mum.
You can use relate and they will be great - I think that once you have got together you will sort it out - she sounds like she wants to
Good luck with it
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