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hi,
yes distance is an issue. i can get to kids in 30 mins. 20 mins from work. if ex were to move to east london for example, then i would be stuck with long commutes. due to long distance, going forward i don't think you should agree to collect your child from school. will cause more problems for your job. better if you collect child by car, for 5pm on a friday for example when overnights begin. whatever works best for you.
also mention to cafcass about when you would like child to stay overnight with you. from age 2 onwards is realistic.
Whilst you lives both sides of London and a long distance travelwise apart a judge wont be ordering a 50/50. overnights generally start at 2 unless ex agrees to it before hand. what contact will it be when its 12 hours this time around. sometimes that is a clue how things will turn out in the long term. once child is 2 you are likely to get 4 nights a month( 6 nights a months if you can drop child to school on Mondays ) and half the holidays.
You may be able to get midweek contact a few hours play and supper but would have to be in close vicinity to your exs home
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