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If you have it amicable, then I would say one of the services that just processes the paperwork is the best solution. If either of you gets a solicitor, they may start giving advice on what you could potentially get from the other part, and any agreement goes out of the window, and you both end up spending a lot on legal fees. It's worth some give and take just to keep it amicable, and it will be much better for you both in the long run. If there's any differences of opinion - talk about them.
I agree . If it’s all friendly agree yourselves and get the solicitor to draw it up as you have said . Don’t let them start trying to sway you if you’re both happy . My ex’s solicitor did that re fincnsces and it took 2 years to sort things out . So try to keep her away from a solicitor lol
There are services that you can use without a solicitor at all, I've used one and it was excellent.
Have you got one you recommend?
Thanks for all the advice - I'm starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel after months of ups and downs mentally and emotionally.
With that in mind I'm about start the divorce process online via the .gov.uk site - no solicitors involved.
The consent order will be trickier although we have broad agreement and I can't start that officially until the Decree Nisi comes through anyway, which will take 4 months apparently. This is where I'll focus my legal advice if I feel I need it but I've got time to negotiate with her.
She has been getting some legal advice but I suspect this isn't from a solicitor - a rough calculation puts our assets at about 50/50 so there is no real point in fighting for every last pound.
Its been really hard having to bite my tongue when communicating with her as she loves a little dig, but I'm finding a bit of peace in not responding to every provocation - a lesson for life in general maybe.
But once everything is signed and sealed I'll have my say.
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