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Hello all,
So here I am. process is almost complete.
Divorce underway - decree nisi issued and still sorting out the financials!
Married for 14 years when it just came to an end.
Two lovely kids Boy (5) and Girl (7) which is the hardest part of it all.
Family moved out at the weekend. I helped after it became apparent her friends were not going to show up because of the bad weather.
I think it helped the kids as I was able to make sure they were settled in the new place with all thier stuff around them.
Daughter cried when I left but my Son seems okay with it.
Sitting in the old family house - well I have my office stuff left in the house and a bed in one of the bedrooms.
Nothing else no washing machine/dishwasher or Fridge/freezer sofas or TV.
Moving to rented accommodation mid Feb once the house sale completes.
Very early days but I miss them and I have spoken to them on the phone each night but still hurts knowing they are round the corner.
My job has often taken me away from them and we talk a lot over skype so they are used to me not being around but this is different.
Probably take a while to get a routine worked out.
Roll on the weekend!
Cheers
Big E
Hi and welcome.
You seem to be taking a very mature approach to this. I agree that it will take a while for the routine to be established, but it is one of the most important things you can do, not just for the children's sake, but also for your own. If you can, keep everything civil with your ex - if you can achieve this, then it will be best for everyone in the long run, and you may have to make the odd compromise to achieve this, though that doesn't mean letting your ex dictate terms to you.
Hello Big E and welcome 🙂
I just want to say well done for being the bigger person and helping them move, it will have made a big difference to them and will help them settle in.
It sounds as though you are coping, but if you need some advice, or just a bit of support, we're here for you.
Hi Big E,
Welcome to DAD.
It must feel very strange not having your kids there. How are doing ?
This seems like a very civilised break-up - well done for putting your kids needs first.
We're here if you need to chat.
Gooner
Thanks everyone for your kind welcome
I can assure you at times it wasn't very civil!
Normally over the small trivial things but generally we are still able to talk just.
I was doing fine this week until Thursday when my son was on the phone asking why I couldn't be there as he had hurt himself. Nothing serious just banged his head but he wanted comfort and I wasn't there. Must admit that bought me to tears.
I am off to pick them both up to take them to Tennis this morning. Then I have them round tomorrow. Which will be good, as I was clearing out the loft I found my old scalextric set so guess what we are doing tomorrow!
The family home completes the sale on the 20th Feb and I have got a rental place to start furnishing come the 15th Feb.
Must say Ebay and Gumtree certainly help to get the big ticket items at a more affordable cost.
Once again thanks and I'll be popping in regularly for advice and comfort that I am not going through this alone.
Cheers
Big E
I was clearing out the loft I found my old scalextric set so guess what we are doing tomorrow!
That sounds like fun.
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