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Hi, in a very difficult situation (aren't we all). Been living with partner for 4 yrs and have a lovely 2yr old. Things are getting very bad between me and partner, she has a ferocious temper and has become very nasty towards me to the extent where I cannot see us staying together. I worry what she is like when our baby does something wrong and I am not there. On a good day she admits she should do something about her temper but never does, she cannot even go to the shops without having an argument with someone. Like most people with these issues when she is ok she seems the most normal person in the world. Since meeting her I learned she self harmed after a previous relationship failed. I just don't know what to do, she is making my life a misery, I would love to split on speaking terms and apply for custody but I know this is highly unlikely, if I tried to fight her on the grounds she has some form of illness it would destroy her and i don't want that. Help!
Hi george99,
Welcome to DadTalk mate. Got a couple of questions for you.
Do you know why she is so angry ?
she cannot even go to the shops without having an argument with someone
So is the anger aimed specifically at you or at other people as well ?
cheers
Gooner
Hi, I don't know why, she doesn't know why either. But she goes about her day like she is right and everybody else is wrong, tap into her trolley in the supermarket and she'll have a full blown barny.
Been festering for quite sometime but def getting worse hence I'm in a situation where I think I'll have to act as she won't do anything to help herself.
Could she be suffering from depression ? Half the battle with depression is getting the person to realise they have a problem and deal with it.
Check out these articles on the site, they may prove helpful :
Chased by the black dog
One in ten
Dads and PND
With the right help you may find that you have a relationship worth saving.
Unless you think its something else other than depression. I would try to convince her to see your family GP or Health visitor.
Thanks for those I will have an in depth look tonight, she has been on the happy pills before I met her for depression, to be honest it didn't occur to me that she could be suffering with it again given the current symptoms but I guess it can come in many forms. I have mentioned to her that I think she needs help but as you can imagine the response was not good 😮
Then again on a calm day she will admit she should see someone.
Hi George,
How's it going ? Made any decisions regarding how your going to proceed ?
Gooner
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