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My ex-wife has very recently instigated CSA action. After receiving a call from CSA I advised them that my children stay with me once a fortnight & some extra days sometimes. I was asked if these extra days would work out at them staying once a week. So I said yes. My ex wife disagreed with this & so contacted the CSA again & so they've increased the original payments. I've spoken to my ex & said that if she's going to be so difficult then I will stick to the children staying one night a fortnight & that's it. I won't have them say, on a Friday night when she & her new husband want to go away somewhere for the wkend, or into Mondays on a Bank Holiday. I want to spend more time with my children & I've asked that my CSA payments be reduced. If they are reduced does this mean that legally I can spend more time with them?
Please help.
Hi unfortunatly, paying for your children and seeing them are viewed in the eyes of the law as seperate issues. If your kids stay with you 52 days a year then it can be reduced, but women know this so the contact will be reduced by women so this does not happen. some guys would do anything to have there kids when they can even if it means baby sitting. I do understand your frustration, but be careful she does not stop contact
I would keep note of how many days the kids stop over etc. Also are you still paying any debts/insurance etc off from the marriage as this can also be taken into account as well as travelling costs.
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