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hi just recently seperated from wife of 18 yrs, she has children and miss then everyday, allowed some time with on her terms, but worried because she drinks alot of mainly vodka, with my two eldest daughters who are 17 y old twins, and stays up half the night and my youngest 11 yrs is in the house .
Hi Squire and welcome 🙂
I'm sorry to hear you are worried, have you tried to talk to her and your daughters about their heavy drinking and the possible effects on your youngest, and does your youngest talk to you about it?
If there are problems and your youngest is worried, you could talk to your family GP about your concerns, and if it is effecting your youngest at school you could also talk to them about it.
There is also Mediation, which is where you and your ex would meet, and with the guidance of a trained mediator, talk through the issues and hopefully come to agreement. It would give you a chance to talk about your worries for all your children, as having your under age twins as drinking buddies is not healthy in my opinion. However your main concern is probably the welfare of your youngest. Mediation might help you to get more defined contact that works for you both. Here is a link to their website ~ www.nfm.org.uk
If the situation worsens in the future and your ex's drinking gets out of control, you could apply to court for custody of your youngest, or Residency as it is now called. You would cite your ex's heavy drinking as your motivation and the courts would order Liver Function Tests to establish this.
Good luck with everything and if you need to talk we're here to listen and help if we can 🙂
Hi squire,
Wow separated after 18 years - that must have taken some adjustment.
What is your relationship with your ex like? Are you still reasonable speaking terms? Do you think you might be able to discuss it with her, without her thinking you're being critical ?
Mediation is always a great way to go to try to sort this and any other outstanding issues.out.
Tell some more about yourself.
Gooner
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