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Last year I read this forum with interest as I was going through a very bad time with solicitors and family courts.
I thought I'd join tonight as its now over a year since I got my contact order which I was chuffed with at the time, indeed I still am.
Anyway the reason I've joined is to hopefully help out and offer advice and experiences with other dads are struggling and just want to tell you all out there
THERE IS A BURNING LIGHT AT THE END OF THAT TUNNEL
Hi Mr Pegg and welcome
Good to have you on here - can you tell us what you went through?
Gladly mate -
Basically me and the ex split up as you'd guess.
From then on I contacted a solicitor pretty much straight away to which the first few letters were ignored. Eventually responses came from my exes solicitor and I spent just over a year with different contact agreements swapping and changing to many false allegations and accusations (all ridiculous) which led to me not seeing my girl for a period of two months or so.
Pretty much gave up as I was broke by this point and was getting myself Ill. I had to rely on generosity of family to carry on with solicitors and had to face more safeguarding issues with cafcass and courts all of which ended up with my ex basically admitted defeat and lies.
Missed out on a lot with my girl but I've now got all that back. I'll never forget the day when the cafcass report came in the post and said something along the lines of "whilst it should remain that residency be with the mother I fully recommend a contact order in mr Peggs favour" - cue a breakdown of utter happiness and none stop tears for the rest of the day.
I still of trouble with the ex from time to time but politely remind her that I won't accept it and of course I'd be happy to write to the court of which she completely changes and retracts her actions.
That's a very very short story but something's I went through we're horrendous and I'll never forget, but the relationship me and my girl have now make it all worthwhile and I'll happily offer any advice I can to anyone struggling on here. Whilst by no means an expert I can offer experience and if that helps one person it is worthwhile.
>Whilst by no means an expert I can offer experience
Postive experiences, and definitely postive outcomes are what can keep people on track, when sometimes it can seem very daunting. Your experiences and encouragement would definitely be very welcomed on here 🙂
Great to have you on here mate. Will be very encouraging for so many other dads on here who are going through the same thing!
Hi there
Sounds like a positive story and there are many dads at the start of this process - some get really low and many give up - did you ever think about giving up?
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