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My name is Martin, I'm 39 and currently living in Hook Hampshire.
My wife left me on Sunday morning and took both the children Emily 7yrs & Tom 11 (son from another relationship).
This was the result of a major argument (one of several over the past two years) we had on Saturday night, which I'm very embarresed about. I had several drinks that night and now I'm paying the price.
I'm living at the family home, whilst the wife is living with the children round at her mothers.
I'm very tearful and can't explain the pain and how low i feel at the moment, god, do I miss the children.
The wife is coming round tomorrow morning to talk about me seeing the kids and finances. I want to beg her to come back, but she has already stated that this a no no. She has already redirected her mail and dipped into our joint accounts.
I guess it will be a very bumpy ride from now on.
Hi and welcome.
Begging won't work as you have found out, but you could try suggesting Relate, and looking at treatment for drinking if you both think that's part of problem. If she sees that you are prepared to do something to save the relationship, rather than simply asking her to come back, she may at least think about things.
I agree alcohol doesn't agree with me anymore.
I hardly touch the stuff, but very occasssionally it turns me into a monster.
I've been waiting for counselling for many months now for anger management, but I guess this will now be a little too late to recover my marriage.
Hi there and welcome to Dadtalk - wish you were joining under happier circumstances.
It seems that by coming round your wife is wanting to talk although I wouldn't assume anything or build your hopes up. I think you need to try to find out why she felt that the time was right to go and see if there is anything you can do or say to make it better.
I agree with Actd (as usual) that mediation could be a good option - what it wont do is provide an instant cure and you may have to work a little and be made to feel very uncomfortable as there will be things you may not want to hear.
However as long as you both want to get a resolution then there is hope.
DOnt rush it and good luck
Keep in touch - we are rooting for you!
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