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Hi all,
I'm a 34 year old 'weekend' Dad, my daughter is 3 years old, and love her to bits. I have her every weekend, and try to take her out and do as much as possible with her with the time that I have.
I split up with her Mum over 2 years ago (her idea). I try to make it as friendly as possible for my daughters sake, but lately I'm finding it very difficult. I've not just got wind that she's thinkinig about moving away with my daughter, so thought I'd try and get one step a head if its true... what options if any do I have?
Thanks all.
Lee
Hi Lee and welcome 🙂
I think the first step would have to be to talk to the mum about it and let her know your feelings. Her daughters emotional needs are paramount, its not just whats best for her but whats best for your daughter too. You are obviously a very important part of her life and play an important role, providing the stability that she needs to develop emotionally.
If talking it through doesnt resolve this, you can try Mediation www.nfm.org.uk ... If all else fails you can apply to the court for a Prohibited Steps Order and a defined Contact Order, that would mean an agreement from both of you would be necessary before any big changes could be implemented.... but theres no guarantee that you would be successful in stopping her in the long run, if there are proven reasons for the move she may be allowed to go ahead with it.
Hi Banksey
Welcome to the site
You are not alone with this issue and many dads have posted on here with similar stories
It may be worth a read but NannyJ is right about mediation and you need to keep your cool otherwise it will get all nasty and the most important thing is your relationship with your daughter.
I know it may seem tough but is there the potential for spending holidays etc with her - so don't see it as completely negative it may work in your favour
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