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first time posting on this type of site seems like a nice place you got here..
im on my third child now beautiful little girl called star 11 months old , couldnt ask for a better behaved baby shes a joy to be around
only problem i have is stars mum has been suffering from postnatal depression since star was about 2-3 months old and im getting physically and mentally exhausted , has anyone or is anyone dealing with this to? be good to hear advice on how you've coped and any advice on how to help my partner recover from this devestating illness would be greatly appreciated
thanks in advance
paul
ripzx,
Welcome to the forum mate - congratulations on the birth of Star (what a lovely name). What a tough time both you and stars mum are going through at the moment mate.
Have you checked out our article one in ten -which is about PND, it may have some helpful pointers on it.
I'm sure some other DadTalkers would be happy to offer some advice.
Gooner :ugeek:
Hi Paul,
I am a mum of 3 and after each in suffered with PND, the 1st time I was in complete denial ( or so I am told) and eventually was diagnosed with Post natal psychosis when my daughter was 6 months old - it is the most severe of the PND spectrum and I was hospitalised to stablise the condition.
When I fell pregnant again 4 years later I was terrified this would happen again , but thanks to a brilliant consultant I had who prescribed hormones during and after the pregnancy - for 12 months ( sorry but I cannot remember which ones) I did not develop such a harsh form but had "normal" PND. He told me that most PND is caused by a sudden drop in the female hormones and following this treatment I believe he was right. I had the same treatment when I had my last child.
Coping with PND is not easy for anyone let alone the woman, I felt like a complete failure as a mum - unable to copy with the smallest tasks. The biggest help I found was the support I got from friends and family, they took it in turns to watch the kids for me so I could have some me time or time with my partner.
I complete understand that you are exhausted, try not to focus ( or let your partner focus) on things that can wait such as housework , do your grocery shopping on line and get it delivered - it's amazing how stressful a supermarket trip can be,allow time for yourselves and do simple things like picnics or walks. Also really helpful are support groups ( I'm not a fan of these but they do work), try this one
Keep us updated
Mags
wow Mags - you sound like you went through the wringer.
I take it things got better ?
I complete understand that you are exhausted, try not to focus ( or let your partner focus) on things that can wait such as housework , do your grocery shopping on line and get it delivered - it's amazing how stressful a supermarket trip can be,allow time for yourselves and do simple things like picnics or walks.
Some great advice btw.
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