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Hi I have just been told by this girl I had a 1 night stand with that she is pregnant. Not to go in detail but I didn't even cum inside her I stoped as it didn't feel right ( I was no where near cumin) if she keeps the baby do I have the right to say I do not want anything to do with it, I no I should of used a condom but she never stoped me she was the one who done everything and she came on to me. All my mates think she used me to try get pregnant because of how it happened. I have told her I'm not ready to be a dad and don't want her to keep it but I'm so scared about it all. What can I do ?
In one word. Nothing.
One person cannot be blamed for an unplanned pregnancy. Just because she didn't stop you not using a condom doesn't make it her fault. Or yours , these things happen.
That aside, Biologically, it is possible to excrete semen during [censored], as Sperm can be trapped in the tract from previous ejaculation, This however is usually washed out during urination. Its widely believed that pre-cum, hold little to no sperm (With out a previous ejaculation to supply more). And that Attaining fertilisation of the zygote with this is highly unlikely.
However. With these "facts" in hand the only thing you can really do is wait, And once the baby (if there is a baby) is born, Get a paternity test.
You cannot force her to get rid of a baby she might want, Based solely on you not being ready. And regardless of circumstance this little baby didn't choose this either.
You could easily Forfit your parental rights if you wish and have no involvement with the child (if it was yours) and you didn't want to be involved if you wished. However, i would suggest looking to the future for a real answer to that. Imagine a child who you have missed 16 years of its life, wanting to get to know its daddy. And having to explain why you weren't involved.
Some times its easier to struggle over a concept initially, then do right by the child. It has a better pay off. And i'm sure every single father here who has had a "surprise" pregnancy has felt like you do right now. and gone on to be Amazing and Great fathers.
All you can do is wait. And shield the little guy during one night stands, (Don't want to sound patronising).
If she keeps the baby or not, is her decision. If your not sure how its yours check. Find out your rights. And have a think about what you want to do. Consider the fact the baby could be yours, and that it might not be too. If your certain you didn't cum, then get it checked.
Your actions now, (in regards to the to be mother) will effect your relationship once the baby is born. So show tact where needed. And find out your rights.
I hope i have some what helped. This is a strange situation to be in, one i too have found myself in too. Planning for each eventuality helped me.
I wish you all the luck in the world . 🙂
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