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my lad has been brainwashed by my ex partner for the past 5 years.... and in all that time ive been going to court but to no avail. and in feb of this year I was told by the courts they can no longer assist me because they cannot force contact, I was up against very dirty tactics....I was initially in a supported contact centre for 2hours a week with my son for around 7 months, and just when the contact was about to end for better contact my son was saying he doesn't want to see me anymore. then the other party purposely requested a cafcass report and indirect contact. the report then contained slanderous comments and false allegations...including coaching my son to lie about me...getting him to say I was aggressive to him at the contact centre.assessments was made on my son and the findings were that it is more then likely that the child is being negativity influenced by his mother. but then my ex partner started stating she is now promoting a son and father relationship. but it is the child who is insisting he doesn't want to know me. even with the indirect contact I was sending the ex was saying the child is showing no interest in the items. utter lies....i dont even think she was showing the child the items. just saying what the court wants to hear. i am devastated by this...and want justice.
Hi there
I am going through a similar situation and am still at the contact centre, i am looking into PSA Parental Alienation Syndrome, i'm sure this a case with my ex and it can be proved given the right approach or at least i hope it can.
Not a lot of advise i'm afraid but it might help you.
good luck and don't ever give up, one day your son will realise the situation for himself and will then realise what the ex has done, and you will be able to show him that for years you tried and tried for contact.
br
danny
Hi Jasey78
Welcome to the forum and I hope you will find it a good place to be although I wish I could say under happier circumstances for you 🙁
I'm really sorry to hear about this common situation you find yourself facing. Unfortunately your ex isn't thinking about what is best for your son and he is the one who suffer the most, despite what he may be saying to the contrary. It is always extremely difficult to effectively communicate with your children when you are constantly badmouthed in your absence.
I know it may not be of much consolation but I think dannyboy is right when he tells you to never give up. One day your son will realise the situation for himself and will then realise what your ex has done. You don't say how old he is now?
There are a few other posts on here on the subject of parental alienation which you can find ifyou do a search. You may find what others have said of value.
I hope this is of some help to you.
dannyboy unfortunately that is all am left with now is too wait for my child is old enough...and am slowly getting used too the idea, but it is not easy...at least though I can hold my head up high with pride for myself that I did everything in my power. it is not easy being up against a very devious ex partner and a bias system..the combination left me with no chance....I stuck with it though. mikey thank you for your nice welcoming....my son will be 8 in November.
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