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I've just joined this website and I am looking for advise on what I should do about my 1 yr old son.
I have recently split from my ex girlfriend who I have a 1yr old son with.
She is not letting me see my son and I have tried and tried to ask her to talk to me and be amicable about setting out times and money to help with my sons up bringing.
I have sent message text and e-mail over and over to her asking to see him and all I get back is a few sentences saying that if I want to see him I will have to take her to court and she will push for assisted visits,
I have to add at this point that she got be arrested around 9 weeks ago for common assult. If you can call moving someone out of your way to get out of the house assult that is. The whole thing was blown out of the water and I just cant believe that anyone would do that to someone who they say they love and that has spent 12 months of their life with, I could understand if I had really assulted her but I did not and anyone who knows me really cant beleive that my ex is doing this to me.
All I want is to see him. I miss him soooooooooooooooooo much and all this asking with no replys and saying that ill never be his daddy is to be honest detroying me.
I have two other boys that i see all the time 3 -4 times a week and we have a great relationship with them and am very amicable with the mother of these two boys.
I suppose I really want help on where to go from here. How do I get to see my son, who can help? Why oh why do does my ex have to use my son to get at me.
I just really dont know where to turn. I dont have much money for a long drawn out court battle and the thought of not seeing him for another week let alone 9 or however long it takes it to hard to think about right now.
Any help that anyone can give would be amazing.
thanks
Hi Bosworth,
This really is becoming more and more common i'm afraid and we read it here more and more.
The good news though is there are things you can do, it's good you have these txt and emails stating that she will make it difficult for you as these may be used in court, make sure you keep saving everything.
If you look in the top of the legal section there is a guide on how to apply for and represent yourself through court, It needn't cost lots of money, I did this and it cost me a total of about £300 (and that includes my travel too and from court)
Have a read through the "how too" guides and if you have any questions just ask and we will try and answer them.
when you apply to court you should get a date pretty quickly from memory it was about 2-3 weeks for the court date to come through and then once you attend the court would hopefully try to make an order so that you can see your son.
It won't be a quick and easy proccess but it will be worth it in the end.
Darren
Hi Darren,
Thanks so much for getting back to me.
I have saved all the e-mail and texts because I thought that they may come in handy at some point.
I will do as you advised and look through the legal guide etc.
Things could be so much easier if I could just sit down for an hour with her a thrash this stuff out but its clear that this is not an option.
Can she use the assult charge against me. I got a caution for it from the police so its not even a criminal conviction i dont think.
Thanks again for your help.
Hi Bosworth,
I can't advise you but thought I would say hi and welcome to the site
Thanks Babelfish
What a great site this is.
Starting to get some real good stuff from this site.
There is someone out there that can help. Thought i was on my own. 🙂
Thanks Babelfish
What a great site this is.
Starting to get some real good stuff from this site.
There is someone out there that can help. Thought i was on my own. 🙂
Your not alone at all, lots of us have been through this, so feel free to share anything thats going on, this site is great for sounding off as well as gaining advice.
Darren
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