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Hello everyone.
It's hard to be happy and jovial and wave and smile when I'm so low about things going on in my life at the moment, I guess you all know what I mean.
I'm going to try anyway. 😀 *waves*
I'm Andrew. Father of 2. My eldest is 11 and my youngest is 3. I wasn't there to see my son's third birthday. I've been shut out of his life because I'd dare to move on with mine and meet someone else. I also missed christmas with him this year too. I'm going out of my mind. My (soon to be ex) wife has moved home, changed mobile numbers and basically severered all contact with me so I have no way of knowing where my son is. I have a solicitor but they seem powerless to act without an address. I don't want to go into things in too much detail here as I don't think this is the place so I'll just 😀 and wave again.
Trying to stay strong
Andrew
Hi Mate,
Sounds like you're going through a tough time at the moment. Welcome to the site - I hope we are able to support you through this.
Gooner
Hi Andrew,
I'm not sure what steps you can legally take to contact you wife. Assuming she's in this country, she is either earning and therefore paying tax and NI, or she's claiming benefits - either way, HMRC or other government agencies must know of her whereabouts. You could try approaching the CSA and ask them deal with your maintenance payments - I would have thought that they would be able to track her down. They won't give you her address, but you may then be able to ask them forward mail on to her on your behalf. You could also ask your solicitor about what would happen if you were concerned that she was going to leave the country with your children - I would have though that the courts would be concerned to stop that, so they may be willing to track her down for you if they are able.
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