[Solved] Long and painfull battle for access help needed.

Hi Steve

Unfortunately, what you are going through isn't too uncommon. I suspect that your ex may be deliberately pushing you back to court in order to rack up your costs. Take a quick look at some of yoji's posts as he's covered this situation in some depth in his posts so it may help. Another option you coould consider is to either dispense with your solicitor altogether, since the groundwork has been done getting you the contact order, or having a word with your solicitor to see if he will provide you with support (for a fee of course) while you do the bulk of the work yourself.

Hi.

Having read your comment - just wanted to say.

My partner has been going throught the court system for years (thus far £50K worth of legal fees!!!!!!! NO exaggeration!) It's my belief that his ex, as she claims legal aid, talks him back to court and tries to rack up his court fees to bankrupt him, and in her opinion giving herself a better chance of getting custody!! We can empathise with your situation. My partners ex-wife went ape when she knew their daughter had met me, called the police, called social services etc etc. It's all jealousy ( I know I keep saying this) but it can be for no other reason. It's hard, it's nasty. Stay true to yourself..... Just cover yourself - keep notes, keep texts etc........ KEEP EVERYTHING!!!! It comes in handy...... Trust me!

Ditch your solicitor - you don't need one! You can go to courts as a Litigant in Person (LIP) and take better control of your case.There are many orgsniations out there that can provide you with support and how deal with issues like this as they are not uncommon and almost anyone who has gone through the family courts will empathise you as unfortnately what you are going through is not uncommon. You will get some relaly good advice here too.

If your ex brecahes court orders file for an enforcement of the order and take it back to the courts and start keeping a diary and all correspondences, start noting things down and use these as evidence to supoort your arguments.

Ditch your solicitor - you don't need one! You can go to courts as a Litigant in Person (LIP) and take better control of your case.There are many orgsniations out there that can provide you with support and how deal with issues like this as they are not uncommon and almost anyone who has gone through the family courts will empathise you as unfortnately what you are going through is not uncommon. You will get some relaly good advice here too.

If your ex brecahes court orders file for an enforcement of the order and take it back to the courts and start keeping a diary and all correspondences, start noting things down and use these as evidence to supoort your arguments.

I agree with what Iron man has said!!

There is a place for solicitors in court but only if they work quicky and can manage to be a go between with the 2 parties, my partner has been through court and her solicitor managed to resolve the whole issue before she even went into the court room.

However I know this wouldn't have worked for myself so I did it all alone and although it's taking a while to get everything sorted it isn't costing me lots of money.

Also you can take advantage of the Childrens Legal Centre if you have no solicitor - but a word of caution...sorry!

The chances are your partners ex will have solicitors and they may see an unrepresented opponent as an easy target

Steve, feels like an endless cycle of [censored] mate. Suggest you do consider going to court without a solicitor as I've known judges to be supportive about not knowing the exact protocol etc as long as you present as serious about getting contact with your kids. Also I realise its not what you want but would you be better just to meet her on having contact at the centre for now just to build up a routine of you having time with your daughter - perhaps doing that for a few weeks, you could then start meeting them there but taking your daughter off wherever you want - you might even find your ex starts wanting that time for herself??? Keep your chin up bro - you really matter to that little girl and its a long term game!

Thank you for all of your advice, I have now asked my solicitor to support me but i will take thing
s from here. I have a very good idea, the next court order is going to state that unless CAFFCASS are involved she has to stick to the order otherwise she will be clearly in contempt of court.

The problem I had is that the order said that IF contact went well contact could progress outside the contact centre. Contact did go well, but my ex says that it didn't. I am just staggered how far someone can get by lying and lying and lying.

I am a good Father, I have another Daughter who is 6, I have her every Saturday till Sunday morning, it has been like that for 5 years. When I take her to the contact centre so she can spend time with her sister everyone cannot believe that I am taking her to a place where parents take their children for supervised contact. It just makes a joke of the legal system, It should be like a real court in that you are innocent until proven guilty.

It is a fact that Children benefit from spending time with both parents, the system needs changing. Too often Fathers run out of funds and have no choice but to represent themselves whilst the Mother has a solicitor and barrister. The law needs changing too so that if one party gets legal aid, both should get it.

Anyway it has been 3 months now of just 2 hours at the contact centre, hopefully this will change at the next hearing.

Regards

Steve.