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Can anything be done about lying Exs who go around telling lies to break possible friendships or relationships about me as a dad or our personal reasons why my ex and I divorced ?
Unfortunately, very little in practical terms. Hopefully, your good friends will realise that you aren't the person she's describing, and if they believe her without, at least, asking you for your side, then perhaps you should reassess them as friends.
Legally, the only way is liable/slander but you are talking potentially hundreds of thousands in legal costs for no gain at all. If she is posting online, you can try to request to the moderators/admins that they remove the posts and/or close the account, but again, your chances of success are limited.
Ultimately, if you leave it alone, she will surround herself with her own circle of friends who will be separate from yours, and she'll either get bored because she's getting no reaction from you, or her friends will get bored of her droning.
Hi There,
There is very little you can do to stop it, as actd has said.
The thing is that if she keeps telling these lies to joint friends and those friends believe her they may not have been the best friends in the first place or they wouldn't have taken her side.
The other angle is someone who continually slanders the ex becomes very boring, I know my ex carried on so much that even HER close friends got fed up of it.
I wouldn't do anything, I would wait until she gets bored of it, which she will if you don't rise to it. As soon as you react it will spur her on to continue or even step it up a notch.
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