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I wonder how happy my children really are; as I suspect that they say one thing but mean another! Anyone solved this problem for themselves? This is in the context of divorce and my two kids having to live half of the time with Mum who moved into a new rented house with boyfriend.
Hi There
welcome to the site,
This is something I have wondered about, I know that my son tells me what I want to hear, and feed back from his mum says the same as he will tell her things I know aren't true just so she stays happy with him.
One example are shoes he will wear a pair of trainers when he comes to my house that are 2 sizes too small for his feet yet maintains that they are comfortable, I got him some new ones as I didn't want him wearing them and he wore them home and told her the ones I got him weren't comfortable.
I have no answer as to how to get the real way he feels from him, so if you find the answer please share :p
Darren
Thanks for the welcome!
Well if I uncover a pearl of wisdom here I'll let you know; I guess I'll try intuition and observe covertly on general behaviour to see if there are underlying issues bubbling away.
Of course their mother says all are happy; and their new life with her and her chap is a bed of roses.....hmmmm but I suspect otherwise and I can't rely on her feedback as it is heavily biased for obvious reasons.
Thanks
Russ
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