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my ex partner and I (never married) had a son in Feb 2010, he has my surname. i think i have PR due to when he was born. My ex is now trying to change his surname by deed pol, can she do this without my permission?
thanks for your time
Morgan
If you have PR, then she needs your consent to do this - were you named as father on the birth certificate?
Sorry I forgot to say but, I am named on the bith certificate. Do I have PR due to when our son was born (Feb 2010)?
Yep, you've got PR, so she needs consent. How did you find out that she is intending to change his name? If she has told you, then she may not realise that she needs your consent (or to go to court to get their permission, which is unlikely to be given), so simply pointing this out may be enough to prevent it.
Thanks for replying so fast, my ex and I are on relatively good terms still talking and I'm paying maintenance through an agreement between us. I happend to be on her computer, and her search history had many entries regarding deed poll and name changing! She's quite switched on, and I expect she would know her rights.
I need to get my head around MY rights!
Thanks again for the reply.
Morgs
Ah, in which case the tricky bit might be explaining how you know about her intentions if you raise it.
I'll play dumb, but should I expect a solicitors letter or will she have to do it face to face?
Well, I would hope that, since you are on speaking terms, she'll ask you directly, At least you have plenty of time to think about a reasoned argument.
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