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Hi everyone im seeking advice/help or anything really.
I have a one year old called Oskar to my ex. We broke up last year in October i then started a new relationship very quickly.
And now i have a 2 day old boy called Oliver to my new partner .The ex is now refusing me to see Oskar she said i can see him but Oskar is not to be in Oliver presents they are not allowed to have a relationship. she even has her mother txting me saying that it is not wrong of what she is asking.I completely disagree as they are half brothers. Today she saying i have to go through supervise visits i am no danger to my son.She has just made my life [censored] seen we split always changing her mind when i cans see oskar she just thinks i have no rights to me son
my name is carl
Hi Carl and welcome 🙂
I'm sorry you are having problems with your ex....of course your ex and her mother are wrong in my opinion, the boys are brothers and they have the right to have a relationship.
There are obviously some elements of jealousy and control going on here and this is fairly common. Its always best to try and get these situations sorted out informally so it might be a good idea to think about trying Mediation. This is where you would attend at a mediation centre, preferably nearest to the mother, and talk through the issues you have with a trained Mediator. The next step would be for your ex to attend and be given the opportunity to discuss her concerns. After that it would be hoped that you could both attend together and talk everything through and reach an agreement that you can both be happy with. Here is a link www.nfm.org.uk
There is a charge for this service but if you are on benefits or a low income you may be entitled to legal aid. Heres a link to the legal aid calculator, just input your details and it will tell you if you may be eligible. www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid
It sounds like she is very jealous of your new born and is trying to punish you
What access do you currently have and is that a formal agreement?
Hi she is allowing my son oliver to see his brothers now that i have threaten with courts but my partner is not allowed near my son oskar it frustrates me that she thinks she can control that my partner is not allowed near my son and that if she does go near him contact will stop
there is a contact agreement set up by her solicitor that i have them Thursday from half 3 to half 6 and return them. And stays over at the weekends but now she is stopping my partner seen my son.Its difficult as my partner has just had oliver 6 days ago and had a c section . im hoping in time she will allow her to be near the oskar
I'd say that NJ's advice of looking at mediation is the best way forward at the moment.
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