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Hello All, thanks reading this . I have enjoyed reading some of the stuff on the forums /stories I hope somebody can help me a little. My wife and I have been seperated 3 weeks now - its rubbish , although our relationship was pretty awful I would of loved us to make more effort especially for the kids but she does not want that and I have accepted it. The problems we had were created by a drunken mistake by me a couple of years back which my wife found out about and it has not been the same since, lack of trust , rows , walking on ewdgeshells and perhaps I deserve this. Now what? I have had to move in with my Mother I get to see my kids still a lot ehich is great but I am a very hands on Dad and not being with them every night /morning is very difficult for me and has got me very down. I know people kep telling me kids are very adaptable bla bla and I know they are right I am just gutted it has come to this . My wife wants to move into rented accom as she will get a lot of the rent payed for with housing benefit I will prob move back into the house but the mortgage is huge and with money I will have to pay here it may be impossible. I earn quite well but we were/are always skint . She seems to be planning ahead in termns of her job /house /plans but I cant seem to do so just now I know time will help. I just dont kn ow how either of us will cope finincially going forward , I like any Dad dont want our kids to suffer in any way - do single dads have get any extra income ?...I am pretty rubbish at all this and dont know where to start!?..I know my wife prob wont screw me over I need to know that things will be ok. If she moves out which I am pretty sure she will I expect she will take mostof the furniture too so thats another thing I will have to deal with. I think I am at that point know where I have accpeted my marraige is over but I am very worried about kids emotionally ( they get very upset when I say goodbye ) and financially so please any advice from dads who have seen there , been there etc would beso appreciated. I have got a lot of advice from family, friends and I am lucky to have good people around but would love to hear from one of you Dads.
Thanks again forreading this.
Cheers
Hi There,
I'm sure you feel pretty [censored] at the moment which is normal.
I had similar though I seperated for different reasons, My son would cry (well sob) when ever I left which was horrible, but he soon managed to work a way around this happening, as you've been told kids learn quickly to deal with whats happening.
It's good you have accepted things.
I have a feeling that I have heard somewhere that if you make yourself homeless the social won't help with housing benifits so may be worth checking that out before its too late.
Stick around and feel free to share your troubles.
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