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Hi all,
5 wks ago i got the 'i don't love you anymore, i care for you but don't love you' she insisted no-one else was involved but i tracked her to a hotel and uncovered the affair, good old Ipad in the boot and whers my Ipad!
Anyway, she is about to move into rented accomodation with twinkle toes and he is contributing to the costs
My two eldest (14 and 17) want to stay with me in the family home making me the resident parent, my youngest (9) is to be shared 50/50
I have refused until she at least gets the guy CRB checked and known him for a reasonable amount of time which said was a year! she didn't like that one!
Has anyone any experience of their kids being introduced to a new partner, are their any guidelines?
Am i correct in that as she is cohabiting and he is contributing i can claim against them for maintenance?
Can i claim part of the child allowance from her as she has always received 100%
Cheer fella's
Keeping my chins up!
Steve
All this dumped on me out of the blue like an out of control Avalanche!
Hi
I'll move this to the legal section shortly.
Your ex's new partner's income won't come into the calculation, but if you ex works then you can claim maintenance from her for the two oldest children assuming your oldest is still at school. I suspect you may be able to argue that you have residence of all three children as the CSA don't recognise 50/50 as far as I am aware - if she doesn't look as though she will agree to pay voluntarily, then ask the CSA to act.
As for child benefit, you don't need to claim it from your ex, speak to the child benefits office (not sure exactly who it is) and tell them they live with you and they will pay child benefit directly to you.
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