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hi all
new to this forum stuff! heard about it through a friend. hope it'll live up to his review, looking foward to chatting to you !
Hello all i am new to this site and the whole father thing as only found out last night, I am going to be dad. I was just after advice and tips on to survive and do the best for my wife in the next coming 9 months. :geek:
Welcome and Congrats crippsy1701,
you must be made up mate. Tell us some more about yourself and check out the other boards for info and to ask your questions.
Gooner
I am very much made up, excitied and scared at the same time. I am from birmingham and i am gooner so this if we win all four trophies and have the sprog, (lol) 2011 will be best year ever (well for me anyway).
I am not fussed whether we are going to have a boy or a girl. After all i will still be a dad! 😀
I am intially after advice we with regards what to expect over the next 7 1/2 to 8months.
I have so many questions and i thought who better than to ask than peps who have been through it.
Hi Crippsy,
Welcome. Congrats on soon becoming a dad. Commiserations on supporting L'Arsenal. I have 4 kids so have been through the pregnancy thing 4 times. Best advice I can give for the moment is to be the best husband/partner you can be. Expectant mums go through a lot of changes and its important that we are there for them through it all!
ps. also, get as much sleep as possible while you can lol.
Thanks daddyto4,
Why do you mention sleep? Is my wife going to wake up alot during the night, she already gets up twice a night to wee. Also when the cravings kick in is it best to give them what they want there and then?
Hi Crippsey
Congrats my friend, daddyhood rocks!
Thought you might like to know that DadTalk is going to be having some midwives on the site in May answering question and giving advice so make sure you post some really good questions for them!
My advice is
1 - make sure you ask your partner how's she doing esp at the end of each day
2 - learn foot massage skills - it will earn you brownie points!
3 - read a good book on the subject - you can find some in our bookshop here on the site
4 - read the child developemnt section of the site as it has some great stuff for once baby arrives.
5 - Put money aside !!!!
looking forward to doing the dad journey with you mate 😀
Haha Crippsy, it depends what the cravings are!
Re the sleep, I was more thinking of stocking up before the baby comes along.
Okay - first worry today - wife complaining of stomach pains!
Is this normal or not? - checked internet makes you worry even more.
She is bed now
Hi Crippsy, sorry to hear about the pains and the worrying. I'm certainly not qualified to give medical advice and would advise you get to a doctor. Better safe than sorry. Their advice may also help you if something similar happens again.
One thing that I realised very quickly...don't check the internet for health advice. It will only make you worry 100 times more. Not many sites say 'Don't worry its perfectly normal'. Most of them are full of the worst prognosis possible.
Keep us updated on how she is. We're right behind you both!
Dont panic
Stomach pains are one of many complaints she will have - as for the internet you will find some good advuce and lots of bad advice.
I would get yourself a decent pregnancy book to read as it will have been verified.
Good luck mate
well folks, another week has passed and i can tell you it has not been easy.
So far i have been left in Tesco over some ceral - i tried to explain to the wife that she should calm down on throwing things in the trolley as had only been through half the shop and the trolley was almost full. I dont mind getting things we need and wants she wants but half the stuff in the trolley was 'just in case she needed a snack'.There was stuff like condensed carmael, nutty tracker bars etc.... Needless to say my wife walked off took the car and left me for dead in Tesco! Doh. Would not have minded normally as understand women get a bit touchy during these times, but she had my wallet. So i had to tackfully abandon my trolley and begin the journey home.
And yesterday i was laughing and joking with my wife - then she suddenly turned she began crying, and she did that whole just leave me alone thing - you know when they are upset but wont explain to you if you actually did or said something to upset them! Then you know whatever you do will only make the situation worse - hound her for the answer - she continues the whole leave me alone thing, ingonre it and do something else and your accused of not caring.
When i spoke to my wife and explained how i felt over these two incidents - the answer i got was it is always about you! Normally we have a very good communication line going on but recently everything seems to be personal.
I am hoping this stage of the pregnancy is still a faze while she gets to grip to controlling her horomones. Fingers crossed for a better week!
Hi Crippsy
Sorry you've had a bit of a time of it this week.
It’s normal for your wife to have mood swings during pregnancy, because of hormonal changes and the wide range of feelings she is likely to be having about becoming a parent. Everyone responds differently to these changes. Some mums-to-be experience heightened emotions, both good and bad; others feel more depressed or anxious. Most find that moodiness flares up at around 6 to 10 weeks, eases up in the second trimester, and then reappears as the pregnancy winds to a close.
Pregnancy can be a stressful and overwhelming time. Your wife might be thrilled at the thought of having a baby one day, and then just as quickly begin wondering what she's got herself into the next. She might be worried about whether she'll be a good mum, whether the baby will be healthy etc etc.
Even if your baby is very much wanted, she might have mixed feelings about the pregnancy and what's ahead. It can be scary. In the meantime, her body's changing and she might be having negative feelings about feeling unattractive. She might be worried about putting on too much weight or looking "fat" as her body grows.
Hang in there, you're doing a great job and I am sure you will get through this together. Hope you have a better week.
Thanks,
I dont claim to be perfect husband either, And it is hard not to bite back especially when i have only just quit smoking! Suppose the best i can do is ride it out, it just sort of seems like i am being picked on - like a bullying tatcic till i give in. I know that she cant afford to get stressed out as it not good for the baby in the long run.
Also dads any tips on saving money - so far changed my broadband and line rental to another provider, downgraded sky.which has made a saving of over 40 pounds a month - was thinking gas and electric supplier - has anyone changed these and how easy is it?
And when is it acceptable to start clothes etc for new arrival? I say this cause the wife says about a week before the due date? Also does it make any difference to the preparation of the new arrival in the world if don't want to know the [censored]?
Also dads any tips on saving money - so far changed my broadband and line rental to another provider, downgraded sky.which has made a saving of over 40 pounds a month - was thinking gas and electric supplier - has anyone changed these and how easy is it?
And when is it acceptable to start clothes etc for new arrival? I say this cause the wife says about a week before the due date? Also does it make any difference to the preparation of the new arrival in the world if don't want to know the [censored]?
I posted on another thread about my switch to OVO energy, it was easy to do, and has saved me a lot of money (easily £500 per year). As regards to clothing, when your baby is born, the thing you will find most useful are baby grows - they are cheap, and if you get them in white and yellow, then it doesn't matter about the [censored].
well dads , it has been and rollercoster last couple of weeks.
The wife was still complaining of pains in the stomach and was getting worse during the night, so she spoke to the midwife and was referred for a scan at the hospital.
Well when i saw the little heartbeat going on the screen i was so relieved that everything was okay i nearly cried.
The mood swings have calmed down now - so all is good in the hood for now.
I am now on the search for baby freebies i.e nappies, baby milk etc , does anyone now any good freebies, i did sign up to the cow and gate website however they keep sending me emails stating i am the mom, i would not mind but each letter head states dear Michael - go figure.
Hi again
Glad to hear you got the pains checked out and were reassured when you saw the scan. Testing times for you both right now.
You might want to check out websites such as the Money Saving Expert for freebies http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/shopping/freebies-gold#big
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