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😕 ? Hi im new to this and to be honest i dont realy know what the [censored] im doing but if anyone can offer some help it will be cratefully recieved.
I love my son so much and I am very over protective as he was prem and his mum sufferd bad post natal and didnt whant to be anywhere near him for the first few months of his life. so I was the one to get the bond normally reserved for the mum and for this I am eternely gratefull as our relationship is uterly amazing.
the only thing is that now and throughout his life mummy has never been able to disceplin or create boundries and this has left me having to get to the point where I have to really shout and vertually lose my rag before he will take notice and do as hes told.
He often says things like why are you allways shouting daddy and trust this hurts my reply of daddy only shouts when you are naughty and wont listen gets some small promis to behave and listen more, but this never lasts long.
I could go on for hours about his behaveor and the way he speaks to his mum at home and vean out i often wonder does he hold it against her for walking out when he was two and a half or is it me like is he coppying me in any way but i dont treat my x like that and never have she comes every day and its like we are still a familly we dont argue in front of him or within hearing.
When hes out with me his behaveor is excellent i couldnt wish for better good manners and all that he should be at this age, the same goes when with my parents hes fine untill mum arives and then turns into little monster more than just excited to see her or me.
Please can anybody help.... 😕 ? (
Firstly welcome to Dadtalk
This is, unfortunately, quite normal behaviour and your son is pushing boundaries and testing you. You need to be firm with him without being overly angry.
It is hard but he will learn.
You can punish him in other ways - no treats, staying in his room etc. I would also recommend praising him when he is good and he will soon learn that good behaviour is rewarded and poor behaviour is punished.
Good luck and stay in touch
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