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Hi,
I am new to this forum but joined hopefully to see if anyone is going through a similar situation or have had one like this in the past. It all startedin 2008 when I came home from work and was arrested on suspicion of abusing my daughter!!!!!!!. This had had to b oneof the most shocking, heartbreaking, stressfull etc exprience I have ever been through after being arrested and loads of court hearings I was obviously found not guilty and was also told that I was not, not only a caring father but a loving and loyal dad. There was absolutly no evidence agaisnt me a my poor children who are still young have had to go through the agonising saga of not only being interviewed etc but being split from their dad for 16 months ( I still cannot get my head around how a mother can do this to her children)
I was awarded full parental resonsibility for my kids and was It was ordered in court for me to have contact with my children again. There is an excellent guardian involved in my case and is trying very very hard to get my children on side again but they have been extremely manipulated and twisted by my ex and her mother. The case worker advised me that the job they have done is to an extreme extent that the children are so upset. This is extremely unbereable to hear ( altough I was expecting it).
My Ex is still to present day that I had done this awful thing that she continues to ridicule my name, put posters in cars about child abusers and talks to anyone about this. The frustration is not being able to sort this on the spot but having to wait for the justice system to let you have your say. I cannot get legal aid and have spent £27,000 + on fighting this woman and am now acting for myself as there are no funds left. I have however met a new partner and we are expecting a baby this year and hopefully seeing my kids soon. The fight continues. Thanks and look foward to reading any responses.
Hi Steve,
Welcome to the forum.
My word what a couple of years you have had - I don't think anything I can say would do justice to what you have had to deal with.
I'm glad that you have found a new partner and are expecting a child. I look forward to your posts.
Gooner.
Hi Steve
Welcome to the forum. I can only echo what Goonerplum has said already. What a horrendous position to be put in, it is extremely sad that your children have had to be put through all of this and you find yourself out of pocket. I hope that you will be reunited with your children soon.
On the positive side it's great to hear that you have found a new partner and are expecting a child. I hope that things will continue to improve.
Hi Guys,
just to let you know I HAVE SEEN MY BABIES well not babaies but my 6 and 9 yr old anyway. I had one visit two weeks ago and it went fantastic my kids were over the moon. This was ordered in court for me to gain contact again. unfortunately i was awarded 3 contacts and only one has happened ( because of the ex not dropping them off). good news is I have a NYAS worker involved who is building the case agaisnt this awful women of an EX. I am back again to my second home (the court) lol in a few weeks to battle more. By the way its going to be a boy !!!!!!!!!!!!
cheers for comments
bfn
Wow fantastic news and a great start to future contact.
I'm really pleased your kids have a good time, it sounds like they missed you.
Brilliant news on the baby boy, enjoy the pregnancy with your partner and take each day as it comes.
Keep us updated
Mags
All I can say on reading that is ... Holy ****!!!
Sounds like the woman has a serious grudge against someone and is taking it out on you and the kids! If the kids are primarily in her *care* then they will absorb the views she presents them with, it is sad that she is chosing to inflict such cruelty on them. It's beyond sad.
Has she been abused herself? Is there an element of the fantacist about her?
I really hope that you carry on with the battle: you have done nothing wrong!! Keep going, keep clearing your name and slowly someone should catch on!
Well done on the new family!! 😀
hey all,
Just updating the site with my situation seeing two of my three kids a present the third one my boy of 12 is the one who has been manipulated the most but has now decided to spend some time with my mum and dad which is a fantastic breakthrough. Hopefully this will lead to me seeing him after nearly two years!!!. just letting the other dads outthere to keep fighting even with no representation in our so called court of law.
cheers
That sounds like a step in the right direction and sounds like your 12 yo maybe slowly coming round. I really hope so.
Well done mate - I love it when we get good news.
Gooner
It's great that your son wants to see his grandparents, he must have really missed them too. Lets hope that things continue to improve for you.
I'm Going through the same now and the powers that be are ignorin me. Private message me to chat more.
Regards
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