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I have a 2 month old son.
I have seen him 4 times as mother has cut all contact for no good reason.
She registered him without me, therefore i am not on birth certificate.
i have shown willing to be part of his life as much as possible.
She receives £300 per month CSA off me.
I am considering a PR and contact order from the courts.
The PR would get me on the birth certificate (he will still not have my surname, but i figured it is better than nothing).
I am concerned that as the mother is in receipt of legal aid, she will drag the proceedings out to financially burden me.
I am in the Navy and so am even wondering whether seeking contact would be worthwhile as i am 200 miles away from the mother and have read that the courts' 'deal for dads' is 1 day per week plus every other weekend. Obviously the weekday would be pointless - even though my mum would love to have her grandson in my absence (apparently this is not possible - my ex hates my mum).
This is a major frustration of mine, as i was under the impression that the courts were supposed to promote a child having the opportunity to spend time with BOTH maternal AND paternal families??
The bottom line is the mother of my son loves conflict - hates resolution. She loves having the power and being able to dictate to me.
I just want an amicable outcome that is in the best interests of my son so that he can have the love of his paternal family aswel.
Hi and welcome to the forum.
First thing I'd suggest is that you read yojis guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal section as this will give you a good idea of the process involved and you can consider self representing to keep your costs down to the court fee only. Is it worth it? I'd say definitely yes.
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