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Hi all,
I have a son who is 5 years old, I live with my partner d 2 hours away. We have had a nightmare with his mother over the years and she is now saying I can have full residence of my son. I have told her we would love to have him but it must all be done legally, we cannot trust her at all, it would be very likely that she would demand him back in the event her new relationship fails.
She has contacted me to say that her soliciter said she can just hand him over as I have PR.
I am not happy with this so have said I need everything in writing and I will then take legal advice.
Can anyone tell me please what happens in these circumstances? what happens when the parents are in agreement? it cant be as simple as just handing him over, what do I need to do now?
Thank you in advance to any replies.
JJ
Strictly speaking, it is better to have it in writing, but you may be better off not doing so initially - if you go to court, aside being protracted, your ex may change her mind in the process.
On the otherhand, if you can take your son now, get him into a school immediately (speak to the headmaster directly as the council may take weeks, whereas the headmaster may be able to place immediately if there is space) and settled in your home, then if your ex changes her mind, you are in the position that your son is settled with you and a court would have to have a good reason to move him - and the longer he is settled in, the less likely a court is likely to remove him.
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