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I think you have a lot of the normal stuff already covered. You could ask your daughter if there is anything special she wants to do occasionally as a treat. Main thing though is that she sees you regularly 😀

Hi Mitz

I can think of loads of stuff for when she's a tad older but at 4 i think what you’re doing sounds great. You could do trips to the local library ( check out special story times for pre-schoolers) and swimming is fun too. Get an allotment or see if there is a community allotment group you can join, kids love that kind of stuff.

Your local paper/radio will keep you up to date with any special events that you guys could go to and i would also suggest checking out your local children’s centre.

Sounds like you have things pretty much sorted though dude. 😀

Thx Guys,

I wish it felt I had things sorted...... feels more like I'm a bit part player in my own life with my stbx still pulling the strings. I know this will pass but it's hard to see when.

Hi Mitz,

Welcome to the site - really sorry to hear that you are getting divorced.

I guess the big thing is to just let your daughter know that both parents love her. Spending time doing what she wants to do (and at four that's just having fun) is a good way to do this.

When she is with you let her know by giving her your attention that she is the most important person on the planet - I'm sure that will be easy.

I can imagine how powerless you must feel at the moment, and from what other DadTalkers have said that sounds about normal. I guess I would suggest not letting your frustration get in the way of you and your ex agreeing on issues that would be beneficial to your daughter.