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Hi to All.
Well, I finally find myself in that position where I need to seek out answers and through searching the web, this site comes up. I have no idea if you are worth a shot or not as I've never heard of you all but, Im figuring its full of DADS wanting/needing help?
My plight is simple, dare I say it.....No it's not, it never is!!
I have two fantastic children, one of which resides with their mother and one that resides with me. The divorce has all been settled and financially sorted out (I got 25% of the matrimonial home). Originally, my ex wife had both children live with her and her new fella but, she has kicked out the teenager as she cant cope with it all anymore(her words).....It's a lot deeper than that but I won't go into that one!!. I have obviously taken my child in but, I am now wondering what maintenance is due to my ex, if any at all? Do I still pay for my other child that resides with her seeing as we now share the children equally? The child that stays with her is in full time education. Unfortuneately, the child that now lives with me cannot remain in education as they had to move 200 miles to be with me and now has to wait until September to continue on with their 'A level' studies by starting again (just started studying Law and Physcology of all things) At present, my ex and myself have one of those mutual agreements through the CSA website so the CSA aren't involved.....
Has anyone any ideas as to what I should do as I certainly dont want to fall fowl of the dreaded CSA and if I must pay then so be it.
Many Thanks in advance and apologies for any fagueness, Im sure you all understand
Hi and welcome 🙂
The simple answer is each parent pays the other! If your ex isnt working then you wouldnt be eligible to receive any maintenance and vise versa. If you are both in employment then the amount that you would each pay is dependant on amount of salary you each receive.
You will be entitled to the child benefit for the child that lives with you, and as it was the move that has disrupted their education, but they will be restarting, then I would say they are still in education, so still eligible for child benefit. You could also look into child tax credits and also working families tax credit, as you may well be eligible to receive these too.
Hi and welcome
The great thing about this site is that we are all dads, many have gone through the same as you and so hopefully they will be able to help you
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