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Not sure where I should post this, but here goes. Due to accusations made by my ex (all unsubstantiated by Social Services and Police) I feel apprehensive to have 1-2-1 contact with my daughter.
By that I mean hugging her, kissing her and generally having a "normal" father daughhter cuddly time. I feel that the accusations have made me cautious. I think my daughter perceives this as standoff-ishness and therefore our bond is being damaged.
My partner can see this distance and quite frequently gives me a wink or nudge to say "it ok to have a cuddle, hold her my daughters hand, roll/jump joke around and make a n'[censored] of myself" Anyone else had this experience?...
I know this is a dreadful situation to be in and certainly much easier to advise from the outside, but your ex has made the worst of accusations.
If I were you I would discuss cuddling, hugging etc with your daughter and tell her you want to but feel that it is difficult at the moment. Ask her if she is ok with it and maybe do it at first with your partner present.
Remember this is about you and your feelings too - and you have nothing to feel guilty about, and as any daughter will tell you they do love a hug from their dad!!
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