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Good Evening everyone,
I have a dilemma my ex has taken an ex-parte non-molestation order out on me, I asked for an undertaking in my original statement for the initial hearing but she has refused my request for an undertaking.
She has made up a number of lies in her statement, where she said I have coerced her into having [censored] a number of times.
I have a number of messages that prove that she's lying about being coerced into having [censored], but the messages are very explicit, along with pictures and videos she used to send to me.
My issue is I feel a bit embarrassed about submitting these messages and pictures as evidence. Also the judge and her solicitor are both women, so I don't want it to come across as if I'm trying to shame her. I'm in 2 minds about submitting the evidence, the only reason I want to submit these pictures and images is to provide evidence that backs up my statement.
I have referenced what she sent me in my scott schedule.
Can anyone give me advice on whether I should submit these messages and pictures.
Thank you for any help you guys can provide!
hi,
do you have a solicitor? would be better to seek legal advice on this.
No, I'm LIP. I can't afford to pay for a solicitor, that's why I asked for an undertaking but she refused.
Thank you, I have looked at that site before, that's why I asked for an undertaking. I haven't contested the order but my ex has refused to my request for an undertaking so she has forced the case to go to a final hearing. I have evidence that proofs a majority of her allegations are not true.
I know I'm allow to provide the explicit evidence, I'm just embarrassed about submitting it. I don't want to embarrass her either. My aim is just to put this behind me and move on,
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